Thursday, 30 April 2015

How To Get Customers - Local Business Marketing

Succeed regardless of the conditions.

How To Get Customers - Local Business Marketing


How to get customers for your local business is always a hot topic.
In this video you'll learn 5 specific marketing tactics you can use immediately
to get customers in the door of your local business.
While we focus on a cupcake business, no matter what you sell,
you'll get ideas you can use now!
#1 - The importance of staying in touch with prospects
and customers and why having a business email list is the cheapest and easiest way to do it.
#2 - Why finding local partners to connect to
and form with relationships with can sky rocket your reach.
#3 - A specific strategy you can use with social media to attract local customers.
#4 - How to highlight customer testimonials to show social proof.
#5 - Why you need to show people the key ways you are different to stand out in the crowd.



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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Best Advice: Be Careful Who You Trust

Carefully constructed balance.

Best Advice: Be Careful Who You Trust

Trust is a very important aspect for healthy personal and professional relationships.
When trust exists in a relationship, you feel comfortable expressing yourself because
you recognize that what you share will be secure.
On the other hand, lack of trust creates misunderstandings, arguments and frustration,
which can harm your relationship and lead to stress and anxiety.
Per Steve Convey, trust is the glue of life. 
It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. 
It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships. 

Some of the things that can damage a relationship are lies, being misleading, 
breaking promises, revealing shared information,
failing to apologize and offering an explanation, and resourcing to excuses.
No one is exempt from falling into any of these things,
it is hard - not impossible - to maintain trust in a relationship.
When there is a will, there is a way. The difference resides in taking responsibility 
for your actions by being a courageous person, not a coward. 

It does take courage to admit that you failed at something
and as a result the trust in your relationship was negatively affected.
Fear of confrontation paralyses some people,
so they decide to not do anything and let the relationship die.
Other people are prompt to make amends to save the relationship
while other people wait for the hurt person to reach out to them.

As Adam Grant describes in his book "Give and Take," there are givers, takers and matchers.
When you give too much in a relationship, you may be taken for granted
and not be valued anymore. Other people may be in a relationship with you for selfish motives
- to take something they need and want from you
- while others go hand in hand with you reciprocating. 
Note that this is not necessarily the case in every personal and professional relationship.
It is tremendously necessary that you are aware of who you trust.
Let your wisdom be your guide.
This has nothing to do with being paranoid about the people
who you already trust in your life nor the people who you are in the process of trusting.  

It is spring time and what a good season to take an inventory of your life,
particularly of the people who have been there for you no matter what,
and also of those who you may need to re-evaluate your relationship with.
Give priority to the relationships that bring meaning to your life
and think about whether or not you need to keep those relationships
that do not add any value to it. It is never too early or too late to be courageous
and be grateful for the people who make a positive impact in your life
and let go of those who keep on taking from you and draining you.
Always be careful you who trust, be wise. #BestAdvice

I compiled these quotes for you about trusting yourself and trusting people. 

1. "As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
2. "You must trust yourself more than you trust others. Pay attention to your inner voice
    - it will tell you if how and in what you are investing is right for you." Suze Orman
3. "Self-trust is the first secret of success." Ralph Waldo Emerson
4. "Trust, but verify." Ronald Reagan
5. "A healthy relationship is built on unwavering trust." Beau Mirchoff
6. "Trust has to be earned, and should come only after the passage of time." Arthur Ashe
7. Relationships survive on trust, and if that is broken at any point,
    it's pretty much the end of the relationship.
   Besides, inability to communicate leads to problems. Yuvraj Singh
8. “When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.” 
    Stephen R. Covey
9. "The glue that holds all relationships together--including the relationship between
     the leader and the led--is trust, and trust is based on integrity." Brian Tracy
10. "Trust is not simply a matter of truthfulness, or even constancy.
      It is also a matter of amity and goodwill. We trust those who have our best interests at heart,
      and mistrust those who seem deaf to our concerns." Gary Hamel 
11. "If people like you, they'll listen to you, but if they trust you,
       they'll do business with you." Zig Ziglar
12. "Trust is built when someone is vulnerable and not taken advantage of." Bob Vanourek
13. "Authenticity is the alignment of head, mouth, heart, and feet - thinking, saying, feeling,
        and doing the same thing - consistently.
       This builds trust, and followers love leaders they can trust." Lance Secretan 
14. "Trust becomes solidified when words consistently back up by deeds." George David Miller
15. "A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend,
       one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us,
       and who loves us in spite of all our faults." Charles Kingsley
16. "Trust in God alone, and lean not on the needs of human help.
     Be not surprised when friends fail you; it is a failing world.
      Never reckon upon immutability in man:
      inconstancy you may reckon upon without fear of disappointment." Charles Spurgeon
17. "Without communication there is no relationship. Without respect there is no love.
      Without trust there is no reason to continue." Unknown
18. "There are indeed times when one should trust blindly,
      just as there are times when one should not.
      Wisdom consists in being able to tell one from the other." Daniel Quinn
19. "Logically, harmony must come from the heart... Harmony very much based on trust.
      As soon as use force, creates fear. Fear and trust cannot go together." Dalai Lama
20. "Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted
      with important matters." Albert Einstein
21. "When you completely trust another person, you will end up with one of two outcomes.
      A friend for life or a lesson for life. Both, regardless of the outcome are valuable." Unknown
22. "Not everyone can be trusted.
       I think we all have to be very selective about the people we trust." Shelley Long
23. "Never trust anyone who wants what you've got.
       Friend or no, envy is an overwhelming emotion." Eubie Blake
24. "Never trust the advice of a man in difficulties." Aesop 
25. "Don’t trust people whose feelings change with time.
      Trust people whose feelings remain the same, even when the time changes" 
       Ziad K. Abdelnour

What have been some of the most meaningful moments in your life 
as a result of trusting people?


https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/best-advice-careful-who-you-trust-ivette-k-caballero


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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Tuesday, 28 April 2015

45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul

The right care for all situations.

45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul
Ellen Bard

“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves
and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by my self.” ~Brian Andreas
Do you ever forget to take care of yourself?
I know. You’re busy, and finding the time to take proper care of yourself can be hard.
But if you don’t, it won’t be long before you’re battered from exhaustion
and operating in a mental fog where it’s hard to care about anything or anyone.
I should know.
A few years ago, I had a corporate job in London, working a regular sixty-hour week.
I enjoyed working with my clients and colleagues, and I wanted to do well.
But I had no life.
I rarely took care of myself, and I was always focused on goals, achievements,
and meeting the excessive expectations I had of myself.
My high tolerance for discomfort meant I juggled all the balls I had in the air
—but at the expense of being a well-rounded human being.
So I made an unusual choice. I quit my job
and moved to Thailand to work in a freelance capacity across many different countries
and companies, which enabled me to set my own hours and engagements.
I began to take care of myself better, scheduling in time alone, for exercise and for fun.
I got to know myself better and know what I needed—not just to function, but to flourish.
But guess what?
At the end of last year, I spent Christmas alone in bed, completely exhausted.
Why did this happen?
Well, I had been running my busy website and consulting in seven countries in just two months.
I forgot to take care of myself again, and I got a nasty case of strep throat.

Self-Care Isn’t a One-Time Deal
The strep throat was a harsh reminder that self-care isn’t something you do once 
and tick off the list.
It’s the constant repetition of many tiny habits, which together soothe you
and make sure you’re at your optimum—emotionally, physically, and mentally.
The best way to do this is to implement tiny self-care habits every day.
To regularly include in your life a little bit of love and attention for your own body, mind, and soul.
The following ideas are tiny self-care activities you can fit into a short amount of time,
usually with little cost.
Pick one from each category, and include them in your life this week.
Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Mind
1. Start a compliments file. Document the great things people say about you to read later.
2. Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.
3. Change up the way you make decisions. Decide something with your heart
if you usually use your head. Or if you tend to go with your heart, decide with your head.
4. Go cloud-watching. Lie on your back, relax, and watch the sky.
5. Take another route to work. Mixing up your routine in small ways creates
new neural pathways in the brain to keep it healthy.
6. Pay complete attention to something you usually do on autopilot,
perhaps brushing your teeth, driving, eating, or performing your morning routine.
7. Goof around for a bit. Schedule in five minutes of “play” (non-directed activity)
several times throughout your day.
8. Create a deliberate habit, and routinize something small in your life
by doing it in the same way each day—what you wear on Tuesdays,
or picking up the dental floss before you brush.
9. Fix a small annoyance at home that’s been nagging you—a button lost, a drawer that’s stuck,
a light bulb that’s gone.
10. Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation with one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; one minute of focused attention on breathing;
and one minute of awareness of the body as a whole.
11. Be selfish. Do one thing today just because it makes you happy.
12. Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love
or regularly wear.
13. Unplug for an hour. Switch everything to airplane mode and free yourself
from the constant bings of social media and email.
14. Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.
15. Edit your social media feeds, and take out any negative people. 
You can just “mute” them; you don’t have to delete them. 

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Body
1. Give your body ten minutes of mindful attention. 
Use the body scan technique to check in with each part of your body.
2. Oxygenate by taking three deep breaths.
Breathe into your abdomen, and let the air puff out your stomach and chest.
3. Get down and boogie. Put on your favorite upbeat record and shake your booty.
4. Stretch out the kinks. If you’re at work, you can always head to the bathroom
to avoid strange looks.
5. Run (or walk, depending on your current physical health) for a few minutes. 
Or go up and down the stairs three times.
6. Narrow your food choices. Pick two healthy breakfasts, lunches, and dinners
and rotate for the week.
7. Activate your self-soothing system. Stroke your own arm, or if that feels too weird, moisturize.
8. Get to know yourself intimately. Look lovingly and without judgment at yourself naked.
(Use a mirror to make sure you get to know all of you!)
9. Make one small change to your diet for the week. Drink an extra glass of water each day,
or have an extra portion of veggies each meal.
10. Give your body a treat. Pick something from your wardrobe that feels great next to your skin.
11. Be still. Sit somewhere green, and be quiet for a few minutes.
12. Get fifteen minutes of sun, especially if you’re in a cold climate. (Use sunscreen if appropriate.)
13. Inhale an upbeat smell. Try peppermint to suppress food cravings
and boost mood and motivation.
14. Have a good laugh. Read a couple of comic strips that you enjoy.
(For inspiration, try Calvin and Hobbes, Dilbert, or xkcd.)
15. Take a quick nap. Ten to twenty minutes can reduce your sleep debt
and leave you ready for action.

Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Soul
1. Imagine you’re your best friend. If you were, what would you tell yourself right now?
Look in the mirror and say it.
2. Use your commute for a “Beauty Scavenger Hunt.” 
Find five unexpected beautiful things on your way to work.
3. Help someone. Carry a bag, open a door, or pick up an extra carton of milk for a neighbor.
4. Check in with your emotions. Sit quietly and just name without judgment what you’re feeling.
5. Write out your thoughts. Go for fifteen minutes on anything bothering you.
Then let it go as you burn or bin the paper.
6. Choose who you spend your time with today. Hang out with “Radiators”
who emit enthusiasm and positivity, and not “Drains” whose pessimism 
and negativity robs energy.
7. Stroke a pet. If you don’t have one, go to the park and find one. (Ask first!)
8. Get positive feedback. Ask three good friends to tell you what they love about you.
9. Make a small connection. Have a few sentences of conversation
with someone in customer service such as a sales assistant or barista.
10. Splurge a little. Buy a small luxury as a way of valuing yourself.
11. Have a self-date. Spend an hour alone doing something that nourishes you
(reading, your hobby, visiting a museum or gallery, etc.)
12. Exercise a signature strength. Think about what you’re good at,
and find an opportunity for it today.
13. Take a home spa. Have a long bath or shower, sit around in your bathrobe, 
and read magazines.
14. Ask for help—big or small, but reach out.
15. Plan a two-day holiday for next weekend. Turn off your phone, tell people you’ll be away,
and then do something new in your own town.
Little and Often Wins the Day
With a little bit of attention to your own self-care, the fog will lift.
You’ll feel more connected to yourself and the world around you.
You’ll delight in small pleasures, and nothing will seem quite as difficult as it did before.
Like that car, you must keep yourself tuned up to make sure
that you don’t need a complete overhaul.
Incorporating a few of these tiny self-care ideas in your day will help keep you in tune.
Which one will you try first?

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/45-simple-self-care-practices-for-a-healthy-mind-body-and-soul/


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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Monday, 27 April 2015

Richard Branson on Marketing and Business

Uncover business potential.




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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

5 Proven Ways to Create a Happy, Fulfilling Life

 This blackthorn blossom produces happiness with it's beauty, 
it also produces the sloe for gin and the liqueur chocolate I enjoy.

5 Proven Ways to Create a Happy, Fulfilling Life
Kulraj Singh

“It is not in the pursuit of happiness that we find fulfillment,
it is in the happiness of pursuit.” ~Denis Waitley
Happiness.
You want it. You seek it. You wonder about it.
You’re constantly reminded that you are living in one of the greatest times ever.
Violence is lower than ever before in human history.
The quality of life we experience in Western countries is higher than it’s ever been.
And you’re bombarded with advice, tips, and tricks on how to construct
your diet for optimal physical health, with minimal time and effort.
However, you can’t help but wonder: Are any of these things actually contributing
to your experience of personal happiness? Or are they just making the world run faster?
As an avid student of happiness, I struggled with this as well.
In my research, I’ve discovered five timeless principles that lead to a happy life.
How many of the following statements are true for you?

1. You have a clear definition of happiness.
You would never pursue a career goal that was as subjective as just more growth, 
nor would you want your child to grow up to be just a good citizen.
So why would you have a personal goal of simply being happier?
Happier can mean so many things to so many people.
We all know what happiness feels like, but do you know what specifically contributes
to your happiness? You must clarify what happiness truly looks like for you.
For example, my friends are often surprised that I don’t want anybody to give me presents.
I simply do not enjoy owning objects. They decrease my happiness, not add to it.
The more you own, the more things you have to manage.
would rather spend time meeting friends for a coffee than fixing my broken smartwatch.
Of course, when I get gifts, I do not express negativity; I accept them with gratitude,
but I definitely do not encourage them.
How about you?
Do you prefer to be doing physical exercise rather than indoor activities?
Do you prefer to spend time doing group activities rather than solo activities?
You are a unique individual, unlike all others. What are your preferences?
Clarity here can change your life.

 2. You regard happiness as a choice.
Many people believe that happiness is predetermined
—that we are born with a happiness set point that never changes,
and that no matter what we do, have, think, become, or create,
we cannot affect our inherent levels of happiness.
But those who understand that happiness is a choice see that this simply is not true.
Two experiments were conducted to see the effect that simply “trying to be happier”
has on our happiness.
In one of the experiments, two groups of people were given happy music to listen to,
and one of the groups were instructed to make it their intention to feel happier.
Even though both groups were listening to positive music, the group who made a concerted effort to emotionally benefit from the music experienced significantly increased positive moods afterward.
As the researcher stated:
“[Our] results suggest that without trying, individuals may not experience higher positive changes
in their well-being… thus, practitioners and individuals interested in happiness interventions
might consider the motivational mindset as an important facet of improving well-being.”

 3. You practice happiness as a skill.
Building on the previous point, we not only must decide that happiness is a goal
we will focus on, but we must also regard it as a skill to master.
I can’t fathom how anyone wouldn’t pursue a mastery of happiness.
We spend our whole lives practicing and learning a wide variety of things,
completely disregarding the most important aspect of life, our own well-being.
Instead of reading the newspaper or latest celebrity news and becoming an expert on people
Who you don’t know, why not read a book on philosophy, psychology, or personal development?
Instead of watching TV and becoming an expert on sitcoms and talk shows,
why not watch an interview online about how to pursue your passions, deal with stress,
or develop inner peace with meditation?
If you are going to spend your time developing a skill set in something, 
why not develop the skill of happiness?

 4. You welcome unhappiness.
Of course, we must address the inevitable cycles of life: we all go through times of distress,
sadness, and confusion, and they’re valuable parts of our journey.
For us to even have the experience of happiness, we must know what unhappiness feels like,
just as we would never know what the warmth of the sun feels like
unless we had experienced the winter chills.
Let tough times be. Acknowledge them. Feel them.
Put no time frame on remorse, disappointment, or sadness.
Know that tough times are a required part of the cycle, and when you come back stronger,
wiser, and more determined, you’ll be happier than ever.

 5. You choose to create happiness now as opposed to making it a future goal.
While making an effort to be happier in the present (which works, as noted in number two above), you must ensure you’re not obsessed with happiness
and making it your future goal (which does not work).
Why does making happiness a future goal reduce our happiness?
The reason is simple: happiness is an emotional state.
Therefore, it varies and fluctuates with time, as do all emotions.
Also, an obsession with happiness can prevent us from going out in the world and helping others, spending time with family and friends, and enjoying our present surroundings.
There was a time when I was unemployed, my health was suffering,
and I had lost touch with close friends.
What saddened me more than these life events, however, was my internal dialogue.
I consistently thought, “This is not what life is meant to be like”
and hoped the future would be brighter.
I came to realize that it was my mental commentary on how unhappy I was
that made me so unhappy.
As I let go of my mental image of “how life should be,”
I gained clarity regarding my situation, and I started to appreciate what I still had.
I then decided to spend more time outdoors in nature, give to charity (where possible),
and spend more time with family and friends.
I realized that I was so obsessed with pursuing happiness in the future that I was completely oblivious to how I could live happily in the present, irrespective of personal circumstances.
As I began to think more clearly, with less negative self-talk, I was able to act with more confidence and eventually turn my situation around, while living with more peace and happiness.
True happiness comes from practicing habits that increase our positive emotions
nd fulfilment in the here and now, pursuing meaningful activities today,
and never worrying about “auditing” ourselves for the attainment of a specific happiness-goal
in the future.

Moving Forward
When we know what happiness means to us individually,
able to better ourselves so we can, in turn, inspire others to pursue their own journey.
This also gives us the energy to better the world we live in,
and allows us to enjoy this gift we’ve been given called life.
So spend today focusing your thoughts and efforts toward worthy goals. 
Become wiser as each day goes past, give kindly to others,
and know that happiness is your right and your path, but not your future goal.
Happiness is available to us all now.

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-principles-that-lead-to-a-happy-fulfilling-life/



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A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
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Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?
Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blog:
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www.turbochargedreading.blogspot.com    for extra TCR information

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Saturday, 25 April 2015

What to say when an interviewer asks you about money.

 I think this black 'mushroom' looks like a UFO
Know what is and is not when negotiating.

What to say when an interviewer asks you about money.

One email we received said: "I'm currently interviewing for a job and the hiring managers
asked me how much money I'd be comfortable making. I wasn't sure how to answer this.
Any advice?"
Salary discussions are never comfortable — but like it or not, they usually come up at some point in the interview process. The hiring manager will typically ask what you currently make.
Then, they sometimes follow up by asking, "And how much would you like to make
in your next job?" or "How much do you think you're worth?"
These questions are tricky because you don't want to scare the hiring manager off
by throwing out a number they can't afford to give you — and you don't want to leave money
on the table by choosing an amount that's lower than they would've offered you.
Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of 
"Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior 
and Thrive in Your Job," weighed in on how to respond to this question.
"When hiring managers ask, 'What are you comfortable earning?'
this is the time to shoot for the upper end of your range,
and to have your well-prepared pitch ready," she suggests. 
Knowing your worth in today's marketplace is critical to your success during this process.
"But a general rule of thumb is that by changing jobs, you can expect a 10% to 20% increase,"
she explains. "Much of that depends on your achievements, perceived potential, industry,
attitude, the chemistry, and many other factors. The percentage can be higher if, for example,
your specialty is in high demand or your current employer pays below market." 

Here are some additional tips from Taylor on handling this tricky question:

Offer a range, not a specific number. This gives you wiggle room and allows you to reach
for the highest number, she says. "You can always drop down from there, as in any negotiation.
Also, know your threshold in advance: What is the lowest salary you'll accept?"

Share your research. If you're uncomfortable saying, "I think I'm worth X," refer to your research. This allows you to speak in more objective terms: "My research has shown that this kind of position with my experience is in the range of X." "Remain poised and factual," Taylor suggests.

Be honest.  Make sure you don't embellish on your current pay in order to boost your future one. It's a small world, and the truth may be revealed later.

Think in terms of overall compensation. Before you get into specifics,
know the entire compensation picture. They may ask you about "salary," but are there bonuses, 401Ks, stock options, educational reimbursements, vacation time, travel allowances, excellent medical coverage, or use of a company car to consider? Find out before you blurt out a number.

Be reasonable. Don't make an unreasonable salary request. "If you shoot for the moon,
be prepared to explain why," says Taylor. "For instance, if you say, 'I'm now earning $100,000
and I want to be in the $150,000 range,' you'll likely raise eyebrows. But if you quickly back up
an aggressive request with understandable circumstances that have kept your salary
below market level, you'll get better support," she explains.
Examples include: a difficult economic environment, downsizing, hiring or salary freezes,
cutbacks, or the fact that you receive other forms of compensation and perks.

Don't cave too early. Never throw out a number and then immediately say,
"Well, maybe I'm not worth that much," just because the hiring manager looks surprised.
If you've done your research and feel confident in your request, stick with it as long as you can.
You may need to come down in negotiations later — but let that process happen more organically. 

Say you're willing to negotiate. If you realize that you're out of the employer's ballpark,
or feel you're getting limited feedback, you can always say,
"I should also mention that I'm flexible when it comes to salary for a great opportunity.
Do you also have some flexibility in the compensation for the position?"

Pay attention. "Like many aspects of job interviewing, you'll exponentially increase your chances of success through active listening, watching for nuances and gauging your responses accordingly," she says. Let the hiring manager be your guide.

If you really don't know or don't care, evade the question. Normally this would be terrible
job interview advice. But, if you really don't know or don't care about salary
— or you're too uncomfortable answering the question — try something like:
"Salary is not my primary criteria. I really place a lot of importance on seeking a challenging, supportive environment where I can make a significant contribution and grow." 

Don't settle. Just remember: You get one shot at the salary offer process,
so don't settle for something you're really not comfortable with.
If you know you're worth more, and not so certain you'd reach your goal salary anytime soon,
this might not be the company for you.

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Friday, 24 April 2015

Making a Big Decision When You’re Not Sure Which Choice Is Right

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Making a Big Decision When You’re Not Sure Which Choice Is Right
Lynn Reilly

“When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Viktor Franklmake changes,
Over the last two and a half years I have made some big changes in my life.
And by big, I mean enormous.
First, I moved with my husband and our children from a home I loved for ten years.
Shortly after, my husband and I ended a twenty-year relationship and marriage.
With that separation, I made the decision to buy the house we had moved to,
which on paper, I shouldn’t have been able to buy.
Apparently ending a long commitment and beginning a large financial one on my own
wasn’t enough for me though. The following year I resigned from a secure job
to pursue a dream I hadn’t fully envisioned and started a business without projected goals.
When I list out all the changes, I start to question my own sanity.
I have never been one to make quick decisions, especially ones that I hadn’t thought through.
I was raised by my father, a self-proclaimed workaholic,
who spent his career as a high powered executive for a high risk industrial insurance company.
I was not bred to believe in taking chances, to live on instinct alone,
and to leave anything that resembled security. You just don’t do that.
 But something was stirring in me that kept me unsettled.
I knew it was time to make changes, and I knew those changes were absolutely not guaranteed
to work in my favor. I was scared—no, terrified—to alter the course of my life,
but standing still gave me even more anxiety.
How do you make the decision to change your entire life and know it’s truly right for you?
I have a secret, one that I’ve used consistently in recent years
when making decisions that weighed heavily on me.
It’s a technique that simplifies the agonizing back and forths of “should I or shouldn’t I?”
One I wished I learned when I was younger to ward off
some major bouts of indecisiveness and internal torment.
Although in retrospect, I would not have been ready to use it until I was actually ready to hear it.
When I was agonizing over the idea of ending my marriage,
I reached out to a friend who had recently undergone some of his own major life changes.
I didn’t tell him what I was debating, but I told him it was big.
He gave me the most valuable advice I had ever received.
“To make the decision, take the fear out, then you’ll know.”
What? How on Earth do you take the fear out? I had lived in fear for the majority of my existence. How do you keep yourself safe if you don’t live in the fear? In fact, fear is safe.
It kept me securely in the life I felt like I was suffocating in. I knew exactly what to expect.
Why step outside for fresh air if there is no guarantee that that air is not poisonous?
Who does that? Maybe I do. Or at least maybe I could ask.
So I asked the question to myself out loud and then I took the fear out. Completely out.
No worries in the world, fairy tale ending out.
I had to conceptualize what the fears looked like and what they actually were.
My biggest fear was that I couldn’t manage life on my own,
including running a household financially and physically. What if I tried and I failed? What would I do?
To discard the fear, I had to “what if” the opposite. “What if I tried and succeeded?
How would I feel if managed on my own and figured out each step of the way?”
I also worried about the lack of emotional support and wondered if I would come home from work each day crumbling and crying and not be able to parent my children effectively.
I had always had a partner, someone to rely on and to pick me back up when I fell.
I knew the feeling of being alone and I knew how awful it felt to think that I couldn’t handle it.
I felt like a failure even before I tried.
Then I asked myself, “What if I used my resources for emotional support?
What if I relied on my friends and family—and what if I relied on myself?”
The reversal of the what if’s felt powerful and motivating.
And I knew it was possible they could be true.
When we tell ourselves lies, it feels awful; when we speak the truth, it is light and freeing.
Each truth I spoke felt closer to answering my own question.
Not only did I have to identify each fearful “what if,” I had to remove them.
This can be done by listing them on paper and crossing them out or simply calling them by name
and removing them from the equation like they don’t exist.
I saw them each, one by one, stand up to me. There were so many.
And then, one by one, I asked them to leave the room.
And there came my answer: it was time to let go.
It was not an answer I particularly liked, nor was it easy.
In fact, it was one of the hardest answers I’ve ever had to accept.
But it was honest and it was accurate.
Our heart always knows the answer when we gain the courage to even ask.
Since that day, I have been faced with a multitude of opportunities to use and teach this technique. It has never steered me wrong. And throughout making the changes,
I had to walk through those fears with each step.
They appear over and over again and need to be confronted on a regular basis.
It is not an easy task, but it’s no more challenging than living with them.
Living in fear is not far from not living at all. It is intermittently debilitating and paralyzing,
yet always extraordinarily painful, even when it’s safe.
Whenever I hit the wall of self-doubt after following through with the decisions I’ve made,
 I look back at who I was a few years ago and ask what she would think of me.
The answer is consistent. I am the woman I would have envied from afar.
A woman strong enough to live a life she didn’t know she wanted at first glance,
but one that allowed her to be her authentic self.
I chose to take the fear out and in turn, chose to live as myself.
Making a big decision? Go ahead, take the fear out
and then you will know exactly what it is your heart wants you to know.
Making a Big Decision When You’re Not Sure Which Choice Is Right

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Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?
Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blog:
www.innermindworking.blogspot.com        gives many ways for you to work with the stresses of life
www.turbochargedreading.blogspot.com    for extra TCR information

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”