Tuesday, 31 December 2013

The first 32 blogs

Index for ourinnerminds blog:  The First 32

32  How to say what you want. author: M’reen
21  Grow to accept people as they really are author: M’reen
18  This I simply HAD to share. Alpine Ibexes
15  Eating nuts ‘may prolong life,’ JG
14 Grounding by centeringin your space author: M’reen
12  Analysis versus feeling author: M’reen
9   He had to be with her. Poem ERL
8   Happy gardens author: M’reen
7   What 3-D printing really can (and can’t) do. AM
5   This is awesome. YouTube
4   Magic, chocolate and hypnotherapy author: M’reen
2   My glimpse of death author: M’reen
1   Memories are made up ofmoments author: M’reen

Sunday, 29 December 2013

How to say what you need to say.

                                   Artwork by M'reen. The steps may take a little practice at first.

How to say what you need to say.
M’reen Hunt

Re-enter the Conversation.
This can be done physically with kids and even adults or verbally if that is more appropriate.
When things are going wrong and you are digging yourself in deeper say something along the lines of: ‘I need to stop, go out of the door and come back in with a different attitude/approach/ clearer head.’ You may or may not want to gain the agreement of the person you are talking with that this is an acceptable arrangement. This enables the person you are talking with to also accept that it is OK 
to be wrong, it is OK to reconsider and that it’s OK to take a time out. But. 
That your priority is to do what is necessary to resolve this issue to the best benefit for all.
An alternative I’ve used when we’ve both been standing is to say, “Let’s sit down and discuss this.”
I then sat down in someone else’s establishment and invited then to sit also. This time and action space enabled a break in the ‘going wrong’ part of the negotiations; it also put me in the lead position offering a solution to our mutual agreement.

Make like a Broken Record.
that is stuck on one point that repeats and repeats.
“No, I can’t on Friday.”
This is a flat statement of fact that is non-negotiable.
It may be said with a sad shake of the head,
a quick look up as if you are consulting some internal diary.
No ‘why’ you can’t as that leads to a debate regarding your reasons.
Each time you are asked you simply repeat: “No, I can’t on Friday.”
Most people give up after 3 repeats, the really ‘orrible may take 7 or even more repetitions.
By this time you can have a smile in your eyes as you continue with: “No, I can’t on Friday.”
This is not a contest with you getting angry or stubborn, just you are simply patiently waiting 
for the other to respect your declaration. There is no reason for you to justify, to give a reason.
If it is true, you might want to say: “No, I can’t on Friday but Saturday or Tuesday are possibilities.”
Salesmen are trained to ‘overcome’ these ‘objections’ often by going off track and asking other questions that often beg a positive response from you. Regardless what is asked you continue with 
a persistent and unchanging: “No, I can’t on Friday.” You may preface this new attack with “I hear you but, No, I can’t on Friday.” Or “I understand but No, I can’t on Friday.” 
This is like the silent air during a TV or Radio interview, it is going nowhere fast.
The problem is we’ve been trained from childhood to answer questions, to be polite, 
to be accommodating. So you will probably have to practice this quite a few times. 
If there are no real life opportunities then practice with a character in a novel, film or soap opera.

Make a Sandwich.
You need to say something that may be negative or unpleasant,
so sandwich it between two positive slices.
This can be useful  in verbal or written correspondence.
(I still like: I could agree with you but then we’d both be wrong’; I’m told of a lawyer who is itching
to use this in court!)
Regarding the prompt of this article that is a couple of blogs below this one.
When asked to increase your work load you could comment on (p) how useful the project is
then (n) make a statement that you unfortunately cannot be involves at this point in time and then follow it by (p) how much you look forward to the project being completed because of its benefits.
This is a complete and final statement saying that you cannot be involved.
This also affirms that this problem is not yours to resolve.
Again this takes a little practice and thought. But when I was a child I was given some Dutch Drops (whatever they might be) 2 or 3 black drops on a huge spoonful of sugar with another spoonful of sugar to follow. Once you get this picture/experience, or the sandwich picture/production or some other sequence that works for you then you will find it easier to make this sequence your own.

Speak to the Hand ‘cos the Head ain’t Listening.
There is more to this than meets the eye.
When you raise your hand up next to your head you are energetically doing two things.
You are forming an energy shield – stop!
And the other’s eye and attention is directed away from you.
They may even be slightly shocked, that is taken aback, their pattern broken somewhat.
You are clearly demonstrating that you do not accept whatever is being said but they can go on ahead and say it if they want, but that it is pointless as you’ve already rejected the message.
If this is with someone you couldn’t possibly do this to; then DO IT IN YOUR MIND.
It gives you a power, a protected shielded attitude.
I have done something similar in a very distressing situation.
I just drew my hand down completely from the top of me to the bottom thus separating the person from me. Maybe I’ll write about this branch of energy protection someday.

Perhaps you’d like to checkout my sister blog www.innermindreading.blogspot.com
and find easy, fast and efficient ways of working with the issues or little unpleasantness’s in your life.
I am now featuring aspects of my upcoming internet programme to teach Inner Mind Reading.

Thursday, 26 December 2013

Words that can get you into and out of trouble.

       Photo by M'reen, this amused me as it was hidden deep under a hedge!   

Words that can get you into and out of trouble.
M'reen Hunt

The article below describes some lovely techniques to use when reasonableness is an option.
However I’m aware of a national organisation that we should be justifiably proud that simply does not accept No. You volunteer or lose you job, or maybe you lose your job as a result of the stress.
Many businesses allow you to ‘wish’ to work, they will provide you with work that they can economically justify or they have a legally obligation. BUT they insist that you are available for all 
the hours they may need you to work and they insist that alternative employment does not leave you 
too tired to be used by them.
I’ve not met the mortgage company yet that allows for you to pay your mortgage based on 
the hours you’ve actually worked as opposed to the hours you were available to work 
for that company! Having a superlative CV does not guarantee you guaranteed work.

Stress: Check out my sister site www.innermindreading.blogspot.com which has a growing number
of techniques to reduce stress right now and to remove the cause of those stress triggers.
Actually spend 2 – 5 minutes a day. This does not mean that you can don your superhero stress duds. It simply means that it will take life longer to stress you out, that fewer things will push your buttons and that you will be distressed for a shorter period, also that you can deal with unexpected stress pronto. This is good.

Why is generally a word to avoid unless it is qualified.
Why is a challenge that produces a defensive posture in the listener.
Just pose some why questions in your mind. They imply that you are wrong, stupid 
and all sorts of negative stuff; particularly if spoken in ‘that’ tone of voice!
Now try qualifying. Preface the WHY with, “I’m really curious why you,” “I’m really interested 
in understanding why …”; said in a genuinely caring or needing to understand tone of voice.

I not YOU
You will notice that when you qualified WHY you used:
 ‘I’(I am curious why …) and not ‘you’ (‘Why did you ….’).
Try. ‘you make me sick!!!’      Now try, ‘I feel sick when you… ‘
        ‘you always …..’                Now try, ‘I always feel … when you ….’
Better still, ‘I always feel …. when I hear you say …’ Now you’ve got two ’I’s’ in the conversation.
This is taking responsibility for your feelings.
It is not putting responsibility for your feelings onto the other person.
I find this rather difficult to do in the heat of the moment.
In the heat of the moment you are not at your professional best; you just react. A black belt in a number of arts told me that when faced with a terrifying situation you forget your training and run.
So when listening to or watching a drama, consciously listen for the ‘YOUs’ and then change 
the sentence to an ‘I’ one, in this way you will have a chance of hearing yourself speak 
and so have the opportunity to defuse the situation.
I needed to express my feelings and the person I was speaking to quickly picked up on what 
I was doing as I had to keep substituting I for You.
He then carefully started substituting I for You, and in this way we were able to discuss a difficult situation fully and without reserve and with full integrity so not alienating the other person.

A client expressed this rather well.
If I say to my wife:
‘You look nice in that dress but your bum is big’ then I’d better hide behind the settee.
‘You look nice in that dress, however your bum is big’ I might stand a chance of living another day.
‘Even though your bum is big, you look nice in that dress’ and I get to enjoy a lovely evening.
The fact is that no matter how much or for how long you praise something as soon as you say BUT you destroy everything that you have said or written before the BUT.
Try it, try and compose a positive sentence that is not ruined by BUT.

You might put BUT after a full stop as an emphasis as to how the situation can be improved.
When doing this I will pause after my negative statement. Emphasise BUT. Pause again.
Before completing what I want to say. In this way I have effectively disconnect myself 
from the start of the sentence and can now offer a solution.

If you find yourself stuck in mid sentence, soften the blow with HOWEVER or EVEN THOUGH.
However, the best option is to put the end of your sentence at the beginning.

AND? and BECAUSE? Even a gentle WHY?
When said in a positive way AND? and BECAUSE? are enabling words.
They express interest without imposing your own thoughts.
A raised eyebrow or open palms ask the same question.

At a later date I may write of more ways in which you can enable your conversations
and be more productive in supporting your cause.

Perhaps you’d like to checkout my sister blog www.innermindreading.blogspot.com
and find easy, fast and efficient ways of working with the issues or little unpleasantness’s in your life.
I am now featuring aspects of my upcoming internet programme to teach Inner Mind Reading.

Tuesday, 24 December 2013

How to say “No” at work in a way that helps your career.

"I think I shall write a companion to this piece that concentrates on the actual words one might best employ when in such a situation or in a dispute with another.
As I am aware of organisations where NO is not an allowable option." M'reen

How to say “No” at work in a way that helps your career.
Cynthia Jaggi

How To Say No:
You know that feeling you get after someone’s asked you to add just one more thing 
to your already full plate? Internally, you start to sob at the thought of more meetings.
You think about how to let your partner know that you need to work even longer hours.
It can be difficult to say “no” because you are passionate about your work.
You see each project’s potential to forward the cause. Also, you want to progress professionally and saying “yes” can seem like the best route.
But the reality is that we can only do so much. So how do you say “no” in a way
that doesn’t hurt your career or make you feel guilty?
How do you know for sure which requests to say “no” to in the first place?

Don’t respond immediately
The first thing to ask yourself when a new request comes in is: 
“Am I in the best state right now to respond?”
The worst time to make a decision is when you are tired, stressed out,
in the middle of something else, or perhaps just really excited about the topic –
and that’s usually when you’ll be asked!
Even if you are new to an organization or early in your career, you can gently let the requestor know that you want to think about the best approach and will respond soon.
Your thoughtfulness will be appreciated.

Think through the request
It’s always worth taking 10-15 minutes to figure out if you should be spending weeks, 
months, or even a couple of hours on a new request.
To help you gain some clarity, go through the following checklist.

1. Priority fit: What are my top priorities? How does this request relate?
If you don’t know what your priorities are, you are not going to know if the new request
fits in. Take the time to revisit the most valuable work you do.

2. Capabilities fit: How does this fit in with your skills and expertise?
Take into account both your current capabilities and those you would like to develop.

3. Long-term benefit: Where will this work lead both for the organization and for you
in the long term? What impact could it create? What opportunities could it open up?

4. Scope: What 20% of the work in this request will produce 80% of the value?
It may be that you can help the requester focus on the most important elements 
and get the benefits by just doing a small part.

5. Resources: What other resources are available? This can be a sticky one – it’s easy 
to feel like there are none. However, even when there aren’t extra dollars, there often are
newer members of the team who might get a valuable learning experience, or volunteers 
who can help. Also think through past work and available tools, organizations and online resources that could be used to complete the task more efficiently.

6. Timing: When does this work need to get done? If it’s really valuable and needs 
to get done soon, you may want to say “yes” and highlight the need to take something 
else off your plate.

Say “no,” gently
After going through the checklist, if you realize that you can’t commit to a new project, 
don’t send an email. Instead, have a conversation with the requestor and think
of the conversation as a negotiation and a discussion of options.

1. Start with your “why.” For example: “I want to do a really good job on X [pre-existing priority], so I’m thinking that it would be better if I supervised [volunteer, other resource] 
doing Y [new request]. It will also let them learn the process.” If you are early in your career you could say, “I am focused right now on learning to do X really well for the organization, 
and want to make sure anything I take on doesn’t prevent me from reaching that goal.”

2. Be a resource to the requestor. Give them new ideas and/or resources.
They are likely overworked too and may not have fully thought the options through.
So offer your ideas about the most valuable piece of the request, when the right time
is for the work to happen, and what resources might make it easier. 
For example, “I know you want to get good feedback from staff on X topic. Instead of doing individual interviews, what if we used an online tool to do an initial survey?”

3. Be clear on what’s not negotiable. If it’s valuable work, most likely you’d be happy 
to be involved, but just in a limited or in a different way. An offer of limited or joint involvement softens the no. So be clear about how you can be involved and, again, offer alternatives.
For example, “Even though I don’t have the capacity to write [the report, document, presentation] right now, I’d be happy to review it.” Or, “Let’s have a brainstorming session with the key people and see if we can solve this problem together in a short time frame.”
In short, make the effort to turn down what’s not a fit but be helpful on every request.
If you repeat this process an amazing thing happens: you not only help others but also 
ensure your career stays on track.


Perhaps you’d like to checkout my sister blog www.innermindreading.blogspot.com
and find easy, fast and efficient ways of working with the issues or little unpleasantness’s in your life.

Sunday, 22 December 2013

Your Voice Is Your Calling Card - Is That Good or Not So Good?

"This is an excellent article, apparently Margaret Thatcher learned how to breathe mid-sentence so that no one could politely interrupt her – as if they would dare! Until you and I follow Nancy’s advice ‘looking at your voice as your calling card’ I read that a very successful tele-marketer imagined that his prospective purchaser had a distinctive personality. On the basis of the person’s responses he imagined that he was talking to a stay-at-home granny or a party-hopping teenager as examples; he then altered his conversation to that relationship. I’ve also read that standing up and looking into a mirror as you speak frees the body physically and gives the conversation a two way value.
As a telephone counsellor, life coach and all that good stuff I, principally, listen. Part of me is in the zone of the conversation while other parts are covering professional aspects. I feel this total involvement gives a genuine aspect to the conversation.
Finally, my accent is ‘from up north’ and I read that university students retained more information if the lecture was given in their home accent.
But I do remember being so very tired on a Trans Atlantic flight and having the air hostess’ voice saw through my brain." M'reen

Your Voice Is Your Calling Card - Is That Good or Not So Good?
By Nancy Daniels

One of the 1st things you do when you start a new business is to create a business card. While the purpose of the card is to identify you and your business, your goal with that card is to project a positive image of that business. In fact, you should probably hire a creative talent to design your card because you want an image that looks professional and successful.
Your voice is a form of calling card as well. When you consider that the sound of your voice accounts for a good 37% of the image you project, what does yours say about you? Does it sound professional? What about over the phone where there is no visual? The percentage relegated to your vocal image rises dramatically.
In my business I have heard them all and many are voices that I would not label as successful or professional. Neither would I describe them as instilling confidence in the listener. Voices that are too soft, too loud, too wimpy, too whiny, too nasal, too hoarse, too high-pitched, or even childlike - the list goes on and on. Unfortunately, most of the people who possess those voices don't know that they have a better one inside of them. I call it your 'real' or true voice. And it sounds a lot better than what you currently hear on your answering machine or voicemail message.
How many times do you hear yourself on some form of recording equipment and have difficulty reconciling that sound with what you hear in your head? Your reaction may be surprise, disbelief, embarrassment, or disgust. No, we cannot hear ourselves the way everyone else does but the good news is that you have a voice inside of you that is definitely deeper in pitch, warmer in tone, and more mature in quality. (Pitch refers to the highness or lowness of sound.)
And, once you discover your 'real' voice, you will be able to increase your volume without shouting. It is truly remarkable how this works.
If you are soft-spoken, for example, your volume will increase to a normal level of sound automatically. Another benefit of voice training is that you will discover the best means of controlling your nervousness when addressing an audience- whether it is a sales call or a presentation to a few hundred people.
Did you ever wonder how people like James Earl Jones, Diane Sawyer, Julia Ormond, George Clooney, Kate Beckinsale, Felicia Rashad, and Morgan Freeman sound so good? They are doing one thing which you are not: they are using their chest cavity to power their sound. This is why their voices resonate with warmth and authority.
When you learn that technique, thereby taking the stress off your throat and vocal cords, you too will discover a voice that has resonance. It will also have more staying power. If you have been suffering with vocal abuse which is characterized by chronic hoarseness or a persistent sore throat, the discomfort will end once you take the pressure off your throat and voice box and use your chest cavity as your primary sounding board.
Your voice is your calling card. Why not make it one that projects confidence and success!

Perhaps you’d like to checkout my sister blog www.innermindreading.blogspot.com
and find easy, fast and efficient ways of working with the issues or little unpleasantness’s in your life.

Friday, 20 December 2013

How can you take control of your emotions by becoming rooted in yourself?

My responses are at the end of Colisnicencu’s article.

Photo by M'reen
this was one magnificent tree with roots hanging over a precipice, difficult to climb down.

How can you take control of your emotions by becoming rooted in yourself?
Colisnicencu Daniel

Herman Hesse, in his book Siddharthahttp://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=growupprop-20&l=as2&o=1&a=148406741X (a must read) suggests that one thing is all things and all things are one.
A person is a rock just as much as the rock is the person.
Time is an illusion. Within the child lies an old man and vice versa.
But this is an extremely confusing concept with little to no practical application (unless you’re a monk).
Therefore, I shall define being rooted in one’s self as being in a calm state of mind where you are unaffected emotionally by outside influences.
Why bother reading about this?
Regardless of your belief system let us all agree on one thing:
There is no logical reason for us to get emotional about stuff.
Let’s say you are religious and/or believe in an afterlife.
Why would it matter what happens to you in this life when your real life starts afterwards?
When someone close to you dies, why do you get sad?
Let’s say you are atheist and believe there is no ultimate purpose to life.
Then why get angry when the dog broke your favorite vase? What’s the point? Who can you blame?
Will getting angry at a pudel solve anything?
Perhaps you are Buddhist and believe your ultimate purpose is to reach enlightenment/nirvana.
Then why worry about worldly things? Why worry (for example) about what your friends think of you?
Regardless of your belief system, why let your emotions get to you?
Why not let your emotions get to you?
I’ve been asking quite a few questions (about time I gave some answers).
We humans treasure our feelings. They drive us; they are the spices to our lives.
They motivate us to keep going, but they can also become a brick wall in our paths.
We all love our feelings (when they’re on our side).
What about when they go bad?
Most of us go to ridiculous lengths not to feel bad.
We skip job interviews because we forgot to shave; we ignore our spouses calls/emails because
were too afraid to dump them in person (or over a text for that matter).
Fear limits us from achieving our full potential.
But fear can be overcome.
What if you could control your emotions? What if you could feel only what you want to feel
and just brush aside anything else?
This is the power of being centered, the power of being rooted in your own being.
Will machines take over the world?
As technology advances we are becoming more and more fascinated with robots (and the robot apocalypse).
Imagine yourself as one such robot.
As a robot, you receive info from the outside world.
When someone says a funny joke, the info is registered by the robot mind.
Then, you consciously decide your course of action:
Don’t laugh;
Get offended and punch him in the face.
What’s the difference between robot you and human you?
Humans make their decision on whether to laugh or smack you in the face on an unconscious level.
They cannot choose their response (they respond instinctively regardless of logic).
You might know that the joke was not meant to be offensive but still punch your friend’s teeth out
(you can’t help it).
The reasons for this are your emotions and your inability to control them.
So, how can I take control of my emotions?
I’m guessing you wouldn’t want your brain replaced with a microchip, but controlling your emotions sounds pretty good, right?
In order to do so, you must transfer control of your emotional responses from your unconscious mind to your conscious mind.
For many reasons, a complete transfer of control is impossible.
Regardless of how much training you go through, you just can’t help but get emotional when a gun is pointed at your head.
But you can get enough control to manage your every day responses.
You can learn to remain calm when someone is yelling at you.
You can learn to keep your cool and think clearly when your business project is about to implode.
How can you learn to do so?
Here are 3 surefire ways which, together will increase your self control by leaps and bounds:
1. Meditate for 20-30 minutes a day
In order to gain control over your head you must first clear your brain.
Meditating daily will make you more rooted in yourself.
You will become less reactive to outside stimuli (and less emotional).
This does not mean you will lose your sense of humor.
When your friend tells you the story of how he pissed his pants in English class you will still laugh.
But you will do it because it’s funny, not because you want to please him, not because all your other friends are laughing and not because you want to feel superior to him.
2.  Talk to random strangers as often as possible
This is something I’ve been struggling to do for a while now.
For obvious reasons, such an endeavor can be rather difficult.
However, the benefits are worth it.
Others are one of the biggest reasons for our bad emotions.
By meeting new people daily, you will gain a higher understanding of human nature.
You will encounter all sorts of behaviors and, with time become immune to them.
A very social person once said:
“I’ve reached a point where if someone were to walk in front of me, turn around, take down his/her pants and take a crap, I’d be like ‘cool’ and move on”.
3. Do things which feel uncomfortable
Take uncomfortable action.
Do you cross your arms right above left? Try and do the opposite.
Do you not like physical exercise? Go to a gym.
Push your comfort zone!
The more you do it, the more you will realize there is nothing you can’t do if you put your mind to it.
Remember: The more you do, the less you will fear.
In conclusion
By practicing 2 and 3 you will become immune to outside influences. By meditating you will boost their effects.
You will become more confident and rooted in your own belief system.
You will stop reacting based on what you think people or the world wants you to do.
Once you internalize the fact that, in the ocean of new events and people, you are the only constant, you shall trust your judgment above all else.
Your emotions too will surrender to your judgment.
Begin today.
Do that thing you’ve been postponing. Go for a walk and talk to whoever crosses your path. Learn how to meditate.
Spread your roots.

M'reen: "I honestly can’t say that I understand this blog. I can appreciate that the author has gone to a great deal of soul searching and is genuine in his desire to share for everyone’s benefit.
I can understand the point of his questions and that they are ideals to strive to as often as is possible 
and that that often will become more the more that you progress along your path of acceptance.
He uses emotions as the driving force of our subconscious reactions and I’m cool with that concept.
But where do these emotions come from?
I believe that they come from our beliefs that were absorbed in childhood before we had the ability to question their validity.
Quote: “This is the power of being centered, the power of being rooted in your own being”.
This reminds me of a fantastic hypnotherapy script where by an abused person sees themselves as a rock in a river that flows around them. Obviously there is a lot more as the river in question becomes cleaner and more of a friend.
Quote: “They (humans) cannot choose their response (they respond instinctively regardless of logic)”.
Sometimes ‘the devil does take over,’ even some laws recognise a crime of passion. But, yes, increasingly we can feel and then choose how to express that feeling or not in this particular situation.
Quote: “You can learn to remain calm when someone is yelling at you.” I’m sure that the author recognises that being calm in such a situation is not enough. That you need to be energetically calm, that is you are not sending out frazzled vibes. Also, it is useful to have verbal and postural skills etc to diffuse a situation because the person being aggressive may feel impotent and up their ‘attack’ in order to feel that they have achieved.
1. Meditate for 20-30 minutes a day. I cannot comment on this as meditation is not something I‘ve practised. 
I much prefer to spent 2 ½ minutes centering and/or 5 minutes getting rid of stress.
2.  Talk to random strangers as often as possible. I’m not sure that this would help me. I’ve noticed myself 
and other ladies backing away from a perfectly nice English gentleman who just passes the time of day. 
A stiff upper lip and English reserve is a difficult thing to overcome.
Quote: “You will encounter all sorts of behaviors and, with time become immune to them”. I can understand actively practicing your skills of interaction but I don’t necessarily think that you develop these by chance.
3. Do things which feel uncomfortable. This is something I’ve done many a time and others will say that after having faced a particular challenge that they can now face anything. However, unless something is forced on you, e.g. an accident or immersion therapy (being dumped into a pit of snakes – ask Indiana Jones' opinion);  you can only successfully go from a position of confidence and so are really only taking the next step.
Quote: “You will become more confident and rooted in your own belief system”. Following my arguments I can readily agree with this as you’ve grown into the actualising of your adult belief system that forms you emotional responses.
That is enough for now or I shall be commenting on every line.
Why not add your two-pence worth to this article?"

Perhaps you’d like to checkout my sister blog www.innermindreading.blogspot.com
and find easy, fast and efficient ways of working with the issues or little unpleasantness’s in your life.
I am now featuring aspects of my upcoming internet programme to teach Inner Mind Reading.


Tuesday, 17 December 2013

Review - 5 Steps to Financial Freedom

"To review a review, how interesting. I’d like to offer a few tips.
Regarding writing out your mission statement. I find the inside of kitchen cupboard doors a good place to put this. I also have some positive Chinese words written by my sister-in-law.
Avoiding the nay sayers is sometimes difficult, but you can use them to practice your skills on.
A passionate business can be a labour of love; along with ‘just doing it’
you might find the Hierarchy of needs found in  'How do you decide what is the most important aspect of your concern right now?' further down this page to be helpful in finding the value in a business you hope to succeed financially. 
I have been in the wrong place at the wrong time selling the wrong product
but I couldn’t see that before as I was far too positive and saw things from my perspective only. To be fair, I was not the only one so it’s helpful to be able to walk away financially and emotionally and dust yourself down.
I imagine that the book will contain many practical tips.
Photo by M'reen, the barometer has always been there - it means home."

Review - 5 Steps to Financial Freedom
By Paul Lappen
5 Easy Steps to Financial Freedom: Do What You Love and Get Rich Doing It, 
Duane Harden, 2012, ISBN 9780984822706

Many books have been written about how to make money doing what you love.
This book reduces the process to just five steps.

Before anything else, you have to commit to changing your life. Don't just say it; you also have to mean it. Write a Creed, or other inspirational saying, and post it someplace where you can read it every day. Some people, knowingly or unknowingly, will try to discourage you, convinced that you are going to fail. Limit your exposure to such people.

What are you passionate about? What do you love doing? That is where you should look for income-generating ideas. Don't get into, for instance, real estate investing because all those infomercials have convinced you that you will be instantly rich. Do it because you want to do it. Get a copy of your credit report and credit score. If your score is Average or Poor, work now on fixing it.
The book talks about using OPM (Other People's Money) to finance your venture. A bank, or other lender, will have a hard time approving your loan request if your credit score is just Fair.

It's normal to want to plan and plan and plan, removing all possible obstacles before starting your income-generating plan. You may just over-analyze yourself right out of a great business opportunity. At some point, you have to Just Do It (to quote Nike). If things don't work out, pick yourself up, regroup, and start over.

You need to register your venture as a separate business entity (like an S Corporation or an LLC) with the state and federal governments. If for no other reason, do it to reduce your personal liability should someone get injured on the premises. You can't do this alone, so you need a team behind you. Start with a CPA and an attorney who specializes in real estate investing, or whatever your venture entails.

The book also explores what to do when the time comes to sell your venture (your CPA says that you have gotten all the tax benefits you are going to get, or you decide that it is time to retire).

This is an excellent book, written by someone who has been through the process. It is easy to read, and full of information. The hardest part is to convince yourself that Now is the time.
This book shows the reader how to do everything else.


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and find easy, fast and efficient ways of working with the issues or little unpleasantness’s in your life.
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