My
responses are at the end of Colisnicencu’s article.
this was one magnificent tree with roots hanging over a precipice, difficult to climb down.
How
can you take control of your emotions by becoming rooted in yourself?
Colisnicencu
Daniel
Herman
Hesse, in his book Siddhartha
(a must read) suggests that one
thing is all things and all things are one.
A
person is a rock just as much as the rock is the person.
Time
is an illusion. Within the child lies an old man and vice versa.
But
this is an extremely confusing concept with little to no practical application
(unless you’re a monk).
Therefore,
I shall define being rooted in one’s self as being in a calm state of
mind where you are unaffected emotionally by
outside influences.
Why bother reading about this?
Regardless
of your belief system let us all agree on one thing:
There
is no logical reason for us to get emotional about stuff.
Let’s
say you are religious and/or believe in an afterlife.
Why
would it matter what happens to you in this life when your real life starts
afterwards?
When
someone close to you dies, why do you get sad?
Let’s
say you are atheist and believe there is no ultimate purpose to life.
Then
why get angry when the dog broke your favorite vase? What’s the point? Who can
you blame?
Will
getting angry at a pudel solve anything?
Perhaps
you are Buddhist and believe your ultimate purpose is to reach
enlightenment/nirvana.
Then
why worry about worldly things? Why worry (for example) about what your friends
think of you?
Regardless
of your belief system, why let your emotions get to you?
Why not let your emotions get
to you?
I’ve
been asking quite a few questions (about time I gave some answers).
We
humans treasure our feelings. They drive us; they are the spices to our lives.
They
motivate us to keep going, but they can also become a brick wall in our paths.
We
all love our feelings (when they’re on our side).
What
about when they go bad?
Most
of us go to ridiculous lengths not to feel bad.
We
skip job
interviews because we forgot to shave; we ignore our spouses calls/emails
because
were
too afraid to dump them in person (or over a text for that matter).
Fear
limits us from achieving our full potential.
But
fear can be overcome.
What
if you could control your emotions? What if you could feel only what you want
to feel
and
just brush aside anything else?
This
is the power of being centered, the power of being rooted in your own being.
Will machines take over the
world?
As
technology advances we are becoming more and more fascinated with robots (and
the robot apocalypse).
Imagine
yourself as one such robot.
As
a robot, you receive info from the outside world.
When
someone says a funny joke, the info is registered by the robot mind.
Then,
you consciously decide your course of action:
Laugh;
Don’t
laugh;
Get
offended and punch him in the face.
What’s
the difference between robot you and human you?
Humans
make their decision on whether to laugh or smack you in the face on an
unconscious level.
They
cannot choose their response (they respond instinctively regardless of logic).
You
might know that the joke was not meant to be offensive but still punch your
friend’s teeth out
(you
can’t help it).
The
reasons for this are your emotions and your inability to control them.
So, how can I take control of
my emotions?
I’m
guessing you wouldn’t want your brain replaced with a microchip, but
controlling your emotions sounds pretty good, right?
In
order to do so, you must transfer control of your emotional responses from your
unconscious
mind to your conscious mind.
For
many reasons, a complete transfer of control is impossible.
Regardless
of how much training you go through, you just can’t help but get emotional when
a gun is pointed at your head.
But
you can get enough control to manage your every day responses.
You
can learn to remain calm when someone is yelling at you.
You
can learn to keep your cool and think clearly when your business project is
about to implode.
How
can you learn to do so?
Here
are 3 surefire ways which, together will increase your self control by leaps and bounds:
1. Meditate for 20-30 minutes a
day
In
order to gain control over your head you must first clear your brain.
Meditating daily will make you more rooted in yourself.
You
will become less reactive to outside stimuli (and less emotional).
This
does not mean you will lose your sense of humor.
When
your friend tells you the story of how he pissed his pants in English class you
will still laugh.
But
you will do it because it’s funny, not because you want to please him, not
because all your other friends are laughing and not because you want to feel
superior to him.
2. Talk to random
strangers as often as possible
This
is something I’ve been struggling to do for a while now.
For
obvious reasons, such an endeavor can be rather difficult.
However,
the benefits are worth it.
Others
are one of the biggest reasons for our bad emotions.
By meeting new
people daily, you will gain a higher understanding of human nature.
You
will encounter all sorts of behaviors and, with time become immune to them.
A
very social person once said:
“I’ve
reached a point where if someone were to walk in front of me, turn around, take
down his/her pants and take a crap, I’d be like ‘cool’ and move on”.
3. Do things which feel
uncomfortable
Take
uncomfortable action.
Do
you cross your arms right above left? Try and do the opposite.
Do
you not like physical exercise? Go to a gym.
Push
your comfort zone!
The
more you do it, the more you will realize there is nothing you can’t do if you
put your mind to it.
Remember:
The more you do, the less you will fear.
In conclusion
By
practicing 2 and 3 you will become immune to outside influences. By meditating you will boost their effects.
You
will become more confident and rooted in your own belief system.
You
will stop reacting based on what you think people or the world wants you to do.
Once
you internalize the fact that, in the ocean of new events and people, you are
the only constant, you shall trust your judgment above all else.
Your
emotions too will surrender to your judgment.
Begin today.
Do
that thing you’ve been postponing. Go for a walk and talk to whoever crosses
your path. Learn how to meditate.
Spread
your roots.
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M'reen: "I honestly can’t say that
I understand this blog. I can appreciate that the author has gone to a great
deal of soul searching and is genuine in his desire to share for everyone’s
benefit.
I can understand the point
of his questions and that they are ideals to strive to as often as is possible
and that that often will become more the more that you progress along your path
of acceptance.
He uses emotions as the
driving force of our subconscious reactions and I’m cool with that concept.
But where do these
emotions come from?
I believe that they come
from our beliefs that were absorbed in childhood before we had the ability to
question their validity.
Quote: “This is the power of being
centered, the power of being rooted in your own being”.
This
reminds me of a fantastic hypnotherapy script where by an abused person sees
themselves as a rock in a river that flows around them. Obviously there is a
lot more as the river in question becomes cleaner and more of a friend.
Quote:
“They (humans) cannot choose their response (they respond instinctively
regardless of logic)”.
Sometimes
‘the devil does take over,’ even some laws recognise a crime of passion. But,
yes, increasingly we can feel and then choose how to express that feeling or
not in this particular situation.
Quote:
“You can learn to remain calm when someone is yelling at you.” I’m sure that
the author recognises that being calm in such a situation is not enough. That
you need to be energetically calm, that is you are not sending out frazzled
vibes. Also, it is useful to have verbal and postural skills etc to diffuse a
situation because the person being aggressive may feel impotent and up their
‘attack’ in order to feel that they have achieved.
1. Meditate for 20-30 minutes a
day. I cannot comment on this as
meditation is not something I‘ve practised.
I much prefer to spent 2 ½
minutes centering and/or 5 minutes getting rid of stress.
2. Talk to random
strangers as often as possible.
I’m not sure that this would help me. I’ve noticed myself
and other ladies
backing away from a perfectly nice English gentleman who just passes the time
of day.
A stiff upper lip and English reserve is a difficult thing to overcome.
Quote: “You will encounter all sorts of
behaviors and, with time become immune to them”. I can understand actively
practicing your skills of interaction but I don’t necessarily think that you
develop these by chance.
3. Do things which feel
uncomfortable. This is something I’ve done
many a time and others will say that after having faced a particular challenge
that they can now face anything. However, unless something is forced on you,
e.g. an accident or immersion therapy (being dumped into a pit of snakes – ask
Indiana Jones' opinion); you can only
successfully go from a position of confidence and so are really only taking the
next step.
Quote: “You will become more confident
and rooted in your own belief system”. Following my arguments I can readily
agree with this as you’ve grown into the actualising of your adult belief
system that forms you emotional responses.
That
is enough for now or I shall be commenting on every line.
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