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Stop Worrying: 7
Effective Strategies for Dealing With Anxiety
Tejvan Pettinger
We all spend too much time worrying about things that will never materialize.
And this worry only makes our lives unnecessarily
complicated and painful.
However there is hope.
By implementing the strategies
in this article, each of us can diminish our worries and anxieties,
and thereby be free to enjoy life to its full potential.
Delay Worrying
This is a simple technique to stop our worries. If you
find yourself concerned over a situation
in the future, you can try telling yourself, “let me
worry about this tomorrow;
there is no need to worry about it today because it won’t
happen for quite a while anyway”. Whenever the problem comes to your mind, just
try this technique – delay worrying
for another day. The fact is that most
worries never occur; delaying them is just a clever way
of dealing with our negative mind. The nature of our mind is to create
problems
and things to worry about, but this is a way to forget about them.
If you keep ignoring your worries you may later realize
they are not going to occur anyway.
Take Action
When we worry about things we can become paralysed by
fear. Rather than just worrying,
think very carefully about what practical steps you can
take to avoid the problem.
For example, if you worry about your finances consider
how you could reduce your spending, increase your income and consolidate your
debt.
If you just worry and feel powerless the problem will not
go away,
but will continue to lurk in the back of your mind.
By
taking action and working towards a resolution you will feel much better.
Some
problems shouldn’t be ignored, they require action; however,
for other worries there are no steps that you can take
because the worry is mostly imaginary.
If you realize there is nothing you can
actually do,
this is a very good reason to stop worrying about it.
Be Careful What
You Wish For
When we think about something intensely we give this idea
greater power.
In some form these ideas are more likely to materialize.
If we worry over making a mistake,
we can increase our chances of doing this. We therefore
need to be careful what we think about;
if we worry over a negative outcome we increase the
chance that it will occur –
Our worries can become self fulfilling. If we remember
the power of thought,
we will be more careful about dwelling on painful
outcomes.
Rather than worrying about a negative event, focus your attention
on how difficult situations
could be resolved and think how you would successfully
deal with the problem.
Keep Things in
Perspective
Try writing a list of all the things that you are
currently worried about, then examine how much
they really affect your life. Are you worrying about
important things in life or merely side issues?
If your worries are insignificant issues then give them
the importance they deserve.-
If you don’t get a certain parking space in the morning
it is not the end of the world.
If a child forgets to turn a light out, it is not a big
deal.
Don’t be overwhelmed by small things – try to see the
bigger picture.
Control Your
Thoughts
The key to reducing anxiety and worry is learning the
ability to control your thoughts.
Sometimes we feel powerless over our own thoughts; it is
as if we are slave to them.
Whatever thoughts may come we identify with them and
accept them as true.
However, this is a big mistake. Our own thoughts are
often wrong. Also we do have the ability
to decide which thoughts to pursue and which thoughts to
reject; if we are determined
we can prevent thoughts taking hold and throw them out of
our mind. If we give importance
to controlling our own mind we will be less subject to
pursuing endless worries and anxieties.
Don’t Be Vain
It might be harsh, but alas true, that we often worry
about what people think of us.
We worry endlessly that we might not meet society’s
expectations; we worry about
whether people will like us. With this mental outlook we
start to give too much importance
to our ego; it means we are constantly looking for
appreciation and the admiration of others.
If we don’t get this appreciation, we start to worry that
we are no good.
If we can develop greater self confidence and inner poise,
then we will not
worry about what others believe or think.
We need to give less importance to the opinions of the
world.
Even if we get criticized, we should not worry because we
should not identify our self worth
with the opinions of others. This is not easy to do
overnight, but, if we can detach ourselves
from judgements of others we will gain greater inner
peace and avoid worrying over
the relatively insignificance of people’s judgements.
Analyze Them
Another approach to dealing with worries is to carefully
analyze whether they are actually justified. Ask yourself why am I worrying
about this? Could I be wrong?
Suppose you are worrying about someone’s reaction
to what you did at work;
it is likely that you are imagining the worse and assigning false motives to the other person.
If
nothing else you can sow a seed of doubt in the reason for your anxiety.
Before, you felt it was
100% certain to occur, but, on reflection
you have to admit it is perhaps only 50% true. By
analyzing and stepping back from the problem
you can evaluate its importance and this is an effective
way to diminish the power of our worries.
There are always things to worry about, but, as it has
often been said,
worrying is not going to help.
Either take practical steps to
deal with the problem or don’t waste your time worrying
about unnecessary things. If you keep ignoring worries,
eventually they will go away.
The key is to live in the present moment; when we worry
we are thinking of the future or past
and this prevents us from enjoying the present moment.
To reduce worries and anxieties is not to ignore problems
–
it means we work toward solutions rather than just thinking of bad outcomes.
http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/stop-worrying-7-effective-strategies-for-dealing-with-anxiety/
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