12 Techniques to Stop Worrying

  

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12 Techniques to Stop Worrying

Cindy Holbrook 

“I am an old man and I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened” –  

Mark Twain

What Is worry? Worry is a very strong feeling of anxiety.

It’s fear of the unknown – the thought that the worst will happen.

We may become overly concerned with future events.

We may engage in repetitive negative self-talk with all the worst case scenarios.

A lot of our thoughts will begin with …

“If only ….
I would have stayed at home”
I would have said”
I made the opposite decision”

Or

“What if …
I get into a car accident?”
I get fired or laid off?”
My teenager gets pregnant?”
I become ill?”

Worry is a behavior – a habitual way of thinking. If your parents were chronic worriers,

chances are you will be too – then you’ll pass it on to your children. Since worry is a habitual behavior, you do have the ability to overcome it – to replace worry with a more positive habit.

What Do We Worry About?

When it comes to worry, studies have shown the following statistics:

40% never happens – so in essence we are wasting our time by worrying.

30% of what we worry about has already happened. Learn to “let go” and forgive yourself

and others. You cannot change the past – no one can. Accept it for what it is and go on.

12% are needless worries, such as what someone else thinks about us.

10% are petty and unimportant such as we worry about what’s for dinner,

we worry about being late, we worry about what to wear.

8% of what we worry about actually happens.

Of this percentage…

4% of our worries that happen are beyond our control. We cannot change the outcome.

These worries may include our health, the death of a loved one or an impending natural disaster. Often times the reality of these events are more bearable than the worry.

4% of what we worry about we have some if not all control over the results.

Basically I think this is the consequences of our actions or inaction on the problems

and challenges we face.

Given these statistics, you may find it worthwhile asking the following questions:

How many times do we work ourselves into frenzy over a situation that is beyond our control?

Why do we allow worry to stress us out so much that we become ill?

Why do we waste our mental energy with worry?

I can’t answer these questions for you. What I can do is offer you techniques to overcome worry. It’s up to you to decide to stop the worry habit.

How Can You Stop or Reduce Your Worries?

“Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years.

If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry.

Worry never fixes anything.” – Mary Hemingway

1. Prepare for the worst – Hope for the best. 

This comes right from the advice of Dale Carnegie

in “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”.

Accept the worst possible outcome and then take action to improve upon the worst.

2. Get Busy. When you find yourself beginning to worry – get busy on your to-do list.

If you don’t have a list – then write one. List your goals and the action steps required

to meet them. One of the benefits of your to-do list is you will stop worrying

about forgetting something important.

3. Distract Yourself. Call a friend. Read a good book. Watch a funny movie.

Take the kids to the park. Take a walk. There’s dozens of things you can do.

4. Get Support. Friends and family can be an excellent source of support. Especially if they

will tell you how they see things. Sometimes just talking things out, helps the worry go away.

5. Make a Decision. If you’re worrying about an unresolved personal or business issue –

then it’s time to make a decision.

Once you decide what to do, you can begin taking steps for the best possible outcome.

6. Confront the Problem Head-On. It’s usually not the problem itself that is causing your worry. It’s usually the anticipation of the problem. How will others be affected or react?

Deal with the problem as soon as possible.

7. Practice Relaxing. It is important that you take time to totally relax.

Close your eyes take long deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.

With each breath tell yourself to relax.

It just takes a couple of minutes of this exercise for the tension to leave your body.

8. Listen to CDs. This can be your favorite music, brainwave CDs or behavior modification tapes that are designed to dissolve worry and anxiety. (These do not have to be self-hypnotizing

or subliminal – but of course you can choose these types of tapes.)

9. Journal. After writing down everything they are worried about in a journal,

most people feel a sense of relief. In writing you may have discovered

what you are really afraid of, and then you can objectively work on improving the situation.

10. Take Care of Yourself. Get plenty of rest. Eat a healthy diet and exercise.

When you nurture your body and mind, it’s easier to put things in perspective.

It’s easier to cope with the unexpected.

11. Count Your Blessings. You have a lot to be thankful for. Look around you …

We live in a beautiful world. You can be thankful for your health, your family, your mind,

your country, your house, your job, your TV or even your microwave!

12. Monitor Your Thoughts. Be aware of your thoughts and be ready to replace worries

with positive thoughts. Be prepared with a positive thought or quote,

such as “Calmness is the cradle of power” (Josiah Gilbert Holland).

There are many techniques you can use to stop worrying.

The important thing is to consistently use them until the new behavior becomes a habit.

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You Need a Real Vacation (And So Do Your Employees)

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You Need a Real Vacation (And So Do Your Employees)

Laura Entis

Vacations are important. Done right, they can lead to fresh perspectives,

creative insights and reduced stress levels. There's a strong case to be made

that taking the time to unplug is not only beneficial for our mental and physical health,

but may boost the health of our careers as well.

Unfortunately, according to a new survey by rate-your-company startup Glassdoor, 

most of us aren't taking very many of them.

The survey found that the average U.S. employee only took 51 percent

of their eligible vacation/paid time off in the last year. Fifteen percent didn't take off any time

at all, while a mere 25 percent of employees reported using all of their allocated vacation days. And even when we're on vacation, the survey revealed, most of us don't unplug:

Sixty-one percent of employees who took time off admit that they did some work

while out of the office.

It's important for CEOs and managers to encourage employees to use their vacation days,

says Scott Dobroski, a senior manager at Glassdoor.

"Vacation helps employees avoid burnout," he says. "Taking time off can make them both

more productive and more satisfied when they return to work,

which translates into higher retention rates that can save a company thousands of dollars."

Those in senior positions should lead by example, recommends Dobroski.

If a CEO is not taking any paid time off – or if she goes on "vacation" but is still accessible 24/7 – she is making a clear statement about how employees should treat their own vacation time.

And that's a shame, because there are real benefits from taking a vacation

that's actually a vacation.

In the words of Sir Richard Branson"When you go on vacation, your routine is interrupted;

the places you go and the new people you meet can inspire you in unexpected ways."

Here are five more reasons why you and your employees should unplug:

To empower and motivate employees. Leaving the office for a week or two forces you

to shift major responsibilities to your employees. "I have found that when entrepreneurs empower their staff, they are more productive when their boss is gone," says Brian Miller,

the chief operating officer of AdviCoach, a provider of business coaching to small companies.

To instil confidence in your employees (and for your own peace of mind),

begin delegating tasks while you're still in the office. That way, be it sales calls

or stocking inventory, employees learn the ropes before they fly solo. 

To get inspired. Richard Branson is a strong proponent of getting away from it all.

"The places you go and the new people you meet can inspire you in unexpected ways," 

he writes. "As an entrepreneur or business leader, if you didn't come back from your vacation

with some ideas about how to shake things up, it's time to consider making some changes." 

To sniff out dysfunction. If a majority of your employees are not using any of their vacation days, that could be a red-flag says Andrea Herran, the founder of Focus HR,

a human resource consultancy. Is there some sort of dysfunction there?

Is there a problem with the team? The employees may be overwhelmed

or even staying put to cover up wrongdoing. "Employees need to get away and recharge.

If they're not doing so, something could be seriously wrong

and it could be hurting your company," she says. 

 To gain a new perspective. For Crosby Noricks, a fashion marketing strategist

and founder of PR Couture,  time off "actually fuels my creativity and gives my brain space

to come up with better ideas, solutions to problems and efficiencies that I can't always access

if I am operating at a furious pace.”

To disengage. Taking a break is often seen as the lazy man's solution,

but that may be the wrong way to look at it, says Bonnie Hayden Cheng, a PhD student

at the University of Toronto. Recently Cheng co-authored a study which examined a group

of university students juggling work, family and academic responsibilities.

Participants who practiced cognitive disengagement by actively taking their minds off

their troubles and onto something completely unrelated were better able to manage the tasks

at hand than those who tried to push through without breaking.

That may sound counterproductive, but "Actively taking your mind off the problems at hand actually helps manage multiple role responsibilities and leads to increased levels of [work] satisfaction," says Cheng. 

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

5 Ways of Improving Productivity in Your Home Office

5 Ways of Improving Productivity in Your Home Office

It’s much easier to be lazy during work hours while you’re home,

than surrounded by busy co workers, isn’t it? You’re in the comfort of your own home,

you’re your own boss, there’s no one pushing you to meet your deadlines…

If you really allow yourself this kind of freedom, your business, no matter what kind it is, 

will fail before you even started making some good money. In order to prevent all this,

you should go through the next five tips, and do your best to apply them. So, check them out!

Do the Hardest Task First

You have probably heard about the “eating the frog” theory.

If you do the most complicated tasks first, without delaying them, you’ll be able to arrange

the rest of your working hours casually, and solve one problem set in front of you slowly,

with no pressure whatsoever. It can be quite difficult to make yourself set your mind

on those difficult tasks in front of you first thing in the morning, but with some determination, you’ll adopt that habit before you know it, and your productivity will increase significantly.

Trigger Productive Mode

This one is a bit tricky, because it’s completely individual. During your college years,

you have probably discovered the conditions that help you learn better,

so you should definitely apply them in order to increase productivity in your home office. However, if those conditions simply don’t work for you anymore,

you should try out a couple of new things, so you can find the one that works best for you.

For example, if you’re competitive, you should try to trigger your productive mode

by having an imaginary race with your deadlines, and always tend to beat your high scores.

On the other hand, you may be in a rut because you fell into some kind of routine,

which you can easily get out of by introducing your office space to a couple of small irrelevant changes. Some people can focus better and work harder when they are exposed to 

just the right amount of background distractions, so you should probably try this, as well.

There’s one common mistake a lot of people make,

and they consider it to be a highly productive method – multitasking.

It’s a scientific fact that you only do less by multitasking,

so this is one habit you definitely need to get rid of.

Music Helps Brain Work

Whether you’re surrounded with your family in your home office or not,

music can be quite helpful when it comes to improving productivity.

An experiment showed that background music in major cords can help a lot

when it comes to repetitive tasks, but also when you need to distract yourself from the noise around you, no matter if it’s in the actual office or the improvised one in your home.

Keep Sticky Notes Around

You never know when your inspiration may strike, so you should definitely need

some type of diary. If that’s too much for you, and if it’ll take too much of your time,

having sticky notes around you will definitely do the trick, no matter if they are on your computer desktop or your actual desktop. Write down every idea that comes to your mind, even if you consider it sounds silly or dull, and elaborate its stages whenever you find enough time.

Keep Your Space Clean

Your working space needs to be absolutely clutter free, especially if all you need for you work

is your computer. Clutter around you will slow you down, and make it difficult for you

to increase your productivity, so everything you don’t use must go. You should replace those excess items with a desk lamp which will improve lighting in your room, and a plant or two,

which will affect your mind positively and cause the feeling of calmness.

In the end, I’d like to add one more thing – pay attention to your nutrition,

and tend to eat healthy, because one of the preconditions of improving productivity in general

is having enough energy. I hope you’ll find my suggestion insightful,

and if you do apply any of them, I’d really like you to let me know how it goes!

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

10 Habits Financially Stable People Have

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10 Habits Financially Stable People Have

Casey Imafidon

Keeping your financial life stable requires some discipline and development of

good financial habits. We all do not want to be in a financial hole that leaves us emotionally

and psychologically devastated. It is better to protect our finances when we can,

before situations cause our money to slip away from our fingers. 

That is why it is important to learn a thing or two from the financially stable.

1. They don’t spend impulsively

Money has a way of engaging us. This apparently happens to a big problem for us all

as we want to take advantage of the “easier” life. Impulse spending means eating out

and shopping extensively until we drain our finances.

Financial stability can only be attained when we control and monitor our impulse spending.

2. They save money

Financially stable people spend less than they earn. You may not have abundant capital

but you can indulge in the right and important things and not overspend.

This affords you the opportunity to save money. 

So learn to negotiate phone, cable and utility bills. 

Or simply reduce how much you spend on grocery, restaurants and clothing.

3. They track their spending

They monitor their spending. This can be done occasionally. Perhaps once a month

you can write how much you have spent, and see what areas you are running deficient.

When this is done one can understand how efficient he is using up his finances.

4. They invest

Financial stable people do well to secure their future. Even when retirement isn’t lurking nearby you can start setting some money outside in deposits for investments

5. They eliminate and prevent debts

All debts are not the same. A loan that builds with high interest is not the same as low interest loans such as mortgage and student loans. Debt has a psychological effect that works 

against the debtor, so it is better to eliminate or prevent debts. Know how much you owe now,

whether it is a car loan or credit card debt.

6. They budget

Financially stable people budget their income. By using a budget they are able to ascertain

where their money is going to and seeing that it goes to where they actually want it to go to.

With apps like Mint and You need a budget you can take charge of your budget

and start becoming accountable for it.

7. They respond automatically

Yes they do not procrastinate with their finance. They do not delay in the paying of their bills.

By doing this there is no room for debt growth and affords you the opportunity to know

what money can be used for personal expenses.

8. They give up bad habits

This takes some discipline. But financially stable people understand that bad habits

have a way of eating into their income and robbing them off their future joys. Things that

truly make you happy are inexpensive and do not leave you swimming in financial wreckage.

9. They plan

There are special things or activities that you would want to reward yourself with.

It could be buying a house, buying a car, going on vacation. This could be long term goals

that require you to efficiently plan and achieve them. Instead of simply procrastinating, put numbers and dates on those goals. By doing this you can be consistent and see them to fruition.

10. They take care of their health

Financial stability requires some responsibility. You cannot accomplish nor do much

without protecting your vehicle to success, besides medicine is expensive, from medication, examination to treatment. Financially stable people protect their finances by also protecting

their health and ascertaining a healthy lifestyle. We all do know unforeseen occurrences

can happen but please there are things one can manage and are still in your control. 

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/money/10-habits-financially-stable-people-have.html

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I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

How to Lead Like Leslie Knope From “Parks & Rec”

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How to Lead Like Leslie Knope From “Parks & Rec”

Joel Goldstein

Parks and Recreation may have ended, but the legend of Leslie Knope still lives on.

Throughout the seven seasons of NBC’s Parks & Rec, viewers got to know and love

the Deputy Director of the Parks and Recreation Department, Leslie Knope. 

Played by Amy Poehler, Knope is perhaps the most over-eager and determined character 

to ever grace the television screen. 

It’s because of this tenacity and dedication that Leslie Knope is such an amazing leader. 

She may be a fictional character, but she is certainly a model to look up to and aspire to.

Here are five things you can do to be a great boss and lead like Leslie Knope.

1. Do work worth doing.

In a town as apathetic and thankless as Pawnee, Indiana, 

Leslie could have given up many times, but she does work worth doing. 

Her work is a constant source of inspiration to her, her team,

and the people around her. Leslie dedicates her energies to the places

where she can have the greatest impact and do the most good.

2. Be passionate about progress.

Despite a seemingly never-ending stream of ethical roadblocks along the way,

Leslie never loses sight of her goals and the needs of the causes she is championing.

She does things because they’re the right thing to do, not because they’re popular or easy.

This is an important leadership lesson in itself. As a leader, you have to make hard choices –

and people won’t necessarily like them – but if you’re passionate about progress 

and if your choices come from an honest place, 

then you’ll steer your business and your team in the right direction.

3. Think of the big picture.

If you’ve ever watched an episode of Parks and Rec, you’re well aware of the centuries-old feud between the fictional towns of Pawnee and Eagleton. Despite this deep-seated hatred,

Leslie is willing to help the town of Eagleton during its time of need.

She puts differences aside, reaches out, and lifts up her neighbors.

Leslie acts for the common good, she thinks of the big picture 

and how to benefit the most people.

As a leader, it’s vital to employ this big picture thinking. Furthermore, it’s important for leaders

to be charitable and to be active leaders in the community. Lead by example.

Show the importance of giving where you’re able to give and helping your community.

Under the direction of their generous leaders, the most successful and well-respected companies participate in community outreach programs and volunteer on a regular basis.

4. But always pay attention to the little things.

Her acute attention to detail makes Leslie the ultimate public servant and an attentive leader

who truly connects with her team. Leslie is hyper-organized and detail oriented, 

as evidenced by her lengthy reports in thick color-coded binders on just about everything. 

She also has a habit of giving the perfect gift for each of her fictional holidays. 

By paying attention to the little things, she gets to know her staff on a personal level 

and is able to hone in on how to motivate each of them individually. 

Leslie’s knack for thoroughness means she prepares lengthy reports

that make a difference in the community and get noticed by the higher-ups in Washington.

By paying attention to the little things, 

Leslie is able to be a better leader and an amazing colleague.

5. Care.

As viewers see in the show, Leslie takes on various roles. She moves on to new jobs

and pursues new adventures. She knows when to move on and how to best dedicate

her boundless stream of energy. No matter what hat she wears or what project she’s working on, Leslie is consistent in her efforts and in her caring. She cares about everything she does.

This notion is reflected in the quality of her work. The best leaders care about every paper

that crosses their desks, every phone call they make, and every person that sits in their building.

In Leslie Knope’s words, “No one achieves anything alone.”

Your team will be a reflection of your leadership. Dare to care. Dare to be a Leslie Knope.

Conclusion

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You can TCR specialist and language dictionaries that are spontaneously accessed.

I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.

I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.

Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 

How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

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All aspects of regular, each-word down-each-line reading and education.

Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster

www.innermindworking.blogspot.com   many ways for you to work with the stresses of life

www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com   just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”