Thistles are very successful :) have you noticed the hardhead (knapweed)?
10 Things You Need To Stop
Doing If You Want To Be Successful
Mike Oppland
Success means something
different to every person: like beauty, it exists in
the eye of the beholder.
It is your responsibility to determine what success means for you,
and how you go about breeding
success in your life.
Despite this, there are
definitely hindrances to success.
These drawbacks are
ubiquitous in their ability to deter your success.
But don’t fret because if you
seek success, and you fear your actions are blocking
your desire for success, you have the
power and control to overcome the following obstacles.
1. Making Excuses
Stop blaming other people for
why you don’t get what you want.
Stop refusing to accept
responsibility for your mistakes. You make your own choices
and you make your own mistakes.
In general, stop
justifying your poor choices
and stop attributing your
lack of success to things outside of your control.
Successful people don’t do
this.
You are going to err. You are
going to fail. When this inevitably occurs look within,
in a non-judgmental manner,
and figure out what you can do better next time.
Don’t waste time looking
externally by creating excuses for why you didn’t achieve success.
2. Focusing on the
Negatives
Yes, there are negative
circumstances in life that you have no control over.
There are also plenty of
positive experiences in your life. I am willing to bet you have more positives
in your life than negatives. You are capable of living with a positive
perspective.
If you want to cultivate
success in your life than you need to concentrate on all the good.
You shouldn’t disregard the
negative, but you don’t have to give it so much of your attention. Otherwise
you are never going to be satisfied because you are so focused
on the unfavorable conditions
of your life. Even if you reach a level of ostensible success,
your continued focus on the
negatives will prevent you from relishing your accomplishments.
3. Fearing Failure
As I previously stated, YOU
ARE GOING TO FAIL! There is no reason to fear it.
Rather, you should embrace
it. Learn from it, and ultimately improve from it.
When you are successful you
know you are always trying your best.
When you fail it is not a
reflection of you as a person; you are not a flawed individual.
View failure as an opportunity
to grow, not as something to be feared.
4. Looking for the Easy
Way
I want to preface by stating
that attaining success isn’t supposed to be an improbable venture where you
have to overcome a certain amount of adversity and hardship.
I am opining that successful
people don’t look for the easy way through life.
Merely strolling through life
on cruise control is not the blueprint for success.
You need to challenge
yourself at times. Push yourself and stretch your limits.
Aim to reach your maximum
potential, and then go beyond that. That is a success in itself.
5. Beating Yourself Up
You wouldn’t ever beat
yourself up physically so why would you do it emotionally and mentally?
Learning how to skilfully deal with your thoughts and emotions
when you are facing adverse
situations is crucial to being successful.
Get upset over things.
Express your emotions in an appropriate manner.
Be unhappy from time to time.
It is going to happen. But don’t ruminate over unpleasant memories and beat
yourself up over things that already occurred. Too much time and energy spent
on this diverts your attention away from more important endeavors like
progressing toward your goals.
6. Being Ungrateful
The best way to establish
more contentment in your life is to be more grateful.
If you want to push away
happiness, joy, and bliss than be ungrateful.
Gratitude breeds happiness
but it also breeds success.
If you are grateful for your life and everything that comprises
it you are going to have
a less complicated time attaining wealth and accomplishing your goals.
I don’t just mean financial
wealth because wealth includes all kinds of valuables.
I am not proposing that all
financially wealthy people are grateful, and therefore, successful,
or that all financially poor
people are ungrateful, and therefore unsuccessful.
Being ungrateful is not
congruent with getting ahead in life.
If you crave success than observe everything you
are grateful for.
Your gratitude will serve as a compass for your life.
It will guide your
decision-making, and lead you to success.
7. Concentrating Solely on
Your Needs
Hopefully this goes without
saying but focusing only on yourself
is not going to help you
attain success. You could be the wealthiest person on the planet,
and it is apparent that you
are extremely successful. If you accrued your wealth
by taking advantage of
people, or by being selfish and egotistical,
you are not successful in my
book. You probably wouldn’t be very happy either.
The best way to succeed in
life is by helping someone else!
8. Getting Distracted
You were going to start your
book but…You were going to launch your dream business idea but…You were going
to travel through Asia but…
I get it. Things come up. Life takes you on a different course. It happens sometimes.
I get it. Things come up. Life takes you on a different course. It happens sometimes.
But don’t allow yourself to
become distracted from realizing your dreams.
When distractions obstruct
you from your passions than you are moving further
and further away from
claiming your ultimate successes.
This starts with your daily
life. It is fun and often necessary to log onto Facebook
and check emails, but
don’t allow the modern technological age to prevent you
from the work that
needs to be finished today. Success
is based on working toward your goals
while not letting disruptions
hinder that.
9. Living Aimlessly
It is your responsibility to
ascertain your life goals and objectives.
Being successful means you
are fulfilling your life’s purpose every day.
Whether your purpose is super ambitious such as solving world hunger
Whether your purpose is super ambitious such as solving world hunger
or more feasible like being
happy, doesn’t matter. The point is that you are aiming
to be the best you can
be. Steadily wandering through life without any ambitions
or without contributing
anything to society is not what successful people do.
10. Giving Up
When you face an improbable
obstacle in life how do you respond?
Do you give up, or do you
keep pressing on? Successful people don’t give up.
They commit themselves to
reaching their final destination. They may not ever get there,
but they don’t allow
impediments to prevent them from trying.
This means continuing on
despite failures and disappointments.
Success encompasses a lot of
different arenas.
What works for financial success may not translate into
relationship success.
Being successful as an athlete doesn’t necessarily make
you successful as a student as well.
There
are varying degrees of success depending on what situation you are in.
Regardless, the fundamental
backbone of success is trying your best.
If you put forth your best
effort, without harming others in the process,
than you are a successful
person.
This can apply to work, family, friends, relationships, hobbies, etc.
As the late great John Wooden said, “Success is peace of mind which is a direct
result
of self-satisfaction in
knowing you did your best
to become the best you are capable of becoming.”
I
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