Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Forget big change, start with a tiny habit

 
This thistle is at the  stage of massive change.


What if someone told you to floss only one tooth everyday?
Or start the new year, not with grand resolutions, but with a simple challenge..
like ONE pushup a day? BJ Fogg shows us that the key to lasting change
does not lie in planning big, monumental changes, but in thinking really, really small.
Chosen by Fortune Magazine as one of "10 New Gurus You Should Know",
Fogg directs the Persuasive Tech Lab at Stanford University. www.bjfogg.com


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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Monday, 29 June 2015

Submitting Candidates: How to stand out from the crowd

A pyramidal orchid stands out because of its beauty, colour.

Submitting Candidates: How to stand out from the crowd 
John Adams
CEO at Adams Staffing
  
You've just spoke to a candidate that looks extremely promising and now you want to submit the person to your client for the consideration of an interview; Now what do you do? 
Well, let’s take it back a step and ask a few questions:
Did you make a personal assessment for all of the basic requirements, skills and job expectations, reinforcing your assessment with examples of the candidate's job-related experiences?
Do you know what your candidate's best work accomplishments are?
Did you ask the candidate to update their resume adding emphasis to their job-related experiences relevant to the position upon which they are being submitted for?
Coming from a company where my boss submitted clients using a few bullets summarizing their resume, I had to throw away all that I was taught and reformulate the entire process if I wanted to stand out from the crowd. I wanted to gain a level of professionalism and respect from my clients that would have nothing to do with a submittal of bullet points outlining their resume. There's a stark difference between having knowledge of skills and techniques and having experience in the application of those skills and techniques. You are going to want the hiring manager to know that you have done a thorough interview of every candidate that you submit.

I am lucky enough that my brother and mother-in-law are corporate level hiring managers for a healthcare and telecommunications company with hundreds of people working under their supervision at any given time. I suggest you take advantage of any similar resources that you might have. It helps to ask someone on the opposite side of the spectrum questions about how your competition is doing things. Here are the questions that I asked:
How are your recruiters submitting candidates to you? 
Are they sending sloppy, unedited resumes or are they providing clean resumes that look professional?
Are they providing their additional summaries and assessments of their interview?
What are your do's and don'ts in regards to sending over resumes?
What is the most important information that your bosses are looking for?
Here's what I found:

Most recruiters are just sending over lightly edited resumes they take straight from Monster and CareerBuilder with a sentence or two just stating the position for which they are submitting the candidate and how much money the candidate is looking to make. There is no additional summary or assessment for the hiring manager to use for reference. Most hiring managers will overlook a resume if there are errors, mistakes or doesn't look professional. Lastly, the most emphasis that hiring managers and their bosses are putting on consideration for interviewing or hiring a candidate is whether or not the candidate has real-life application of the job skills and requirements from their prior working experience. 

Here's what I did:

I put together a screening assessment ranking the candidate (on a 5-point scale from poor to excellent) in 8 categories: 
Meets job description
Ability to function as key point of contact
Ability to work independently
Motivational team player with project management skills
Ability to solve problems using knowledge from education and work experience
Right career move for the candidate
Optimism in regards to the opportunity to work with client
Overall social and cultural fit for the client
Next to each ranking I explain the reasoning behind the ranking I gave the candidate using only examples of real work experiences I ascertained through my personal interview questions. After the interview I send the candidate a template for them to fill out listing their two greatest work accomplishments. I then have them send this document back to me with their updated resume. After review of the resume, work accomplishments and screening assessment, I put together my cover letter for the hiring manager. The cover letter is a two paragraph summary of why I consider the candidate an excellent fit for the position and why they deserve the desired salary they are looking to make. Finally, I send the cover letter over with the work accomplishments, updated resume and screening assessment.

 A submittal of this depth will do a number of things for both you and your business. You will build your reputation and brand as a professional. Hiring managers will have faith that you only submit strong candidates. You will reduce your sendout-per-placement ratio and you will see an increase in your performance and income. 
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/submitting-candidates-how-stand-out-from-crowd-john-adams


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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Sunday, 28 June 2015

Why missing a night of sleep can damage your IQ

Poppy potential.

Why missing a night of sleep can damage your IQ
Katie Pisa, for CNN

'Thinking Business' focuses on the psychology of getting ahead in the workplace
by exploring techniques to boost employee performance, increase creativity and productivity.
London (CNN)From Napoleon Bonaparte and Margaret Thatcher
to Twitter founder and Square, Inc. CEO Jack Dorsey and Yahoo! CEO Marissa Mayer,
many successful leaders have claimed they only need 4-5 hours of precious sleep a night.
They seem wired differently and shame the rest of us for craving eight hours of shut eye 
every night. But for the majority of us - including many top CEOs and world leaders - 
this is certainly not the case, according to Dr. Tara Swart, 
an international neuroscientist and CEO of The Unlimited Mind.
Missing a night of sleep can have quite a "devastating" effect on our performance, Swart says.
"One to two percent of the population can survive on four hours of sleep a night," said Swart,
"but 7-8 hours is optimal for most of us," she claims.
Could the secret to success in your professional lives be linked to how well you sleep?
"There's a very strong correlation between restfulness and leadership," according to Jessica Payne, associate professor and director of the Sleep Stress and Memory Lab 
at the University of Notre Dame in Indiana.
"The majority of people need seven to nine hours of sleep and the majority of people
don't get that much," cites Payne. It's as important as diet and exercise, she added.

Long term damage
While many of us skimp on sleep for years, thinking we can either make up for it at the weekend
or another time, these long-term habits can add up to big trouble. The problems really strike
after many years of doing this, said Payne. Memory problems, issues with decision-making,
lack of creativity and regulating personal emotions are some of the first areas to be diminished
by lack of sleep, according to Payne.
Social ability and emotional stability are linked to sleep, and a sleep deficit can be
a "huge problem for leadership," says Payne. A lack of it makes us irritable, she said,
and many of us don't understand how key sleep is in regulating your emotions
and interacting with others both in the workplace and at home.

Swart, who trained as a doctor and specialised in psychiatry, then followed her passion
for neuroscience and after working as a psychiatrist for seven years,
is now a coach for leading executives and financiers.
What she didn't expect when she started her research into sleep were the "shocking" health consequences many of her clients suffered by abusing the need for sleep.
"So many of my clients have had heart attacks and nervous breakdowns," she says,
even those in their forties. While much of it is due to information overload
and uncertainty in today's world, a great deal of illnesses are due to higher levels of cortisol
from stress, which in turns leads to difficulty sleeping, she said.
On top of the obvious health risks, when you have any sleep disturbance,
your IQ drops by 5-8 IQ points, explained Swart. While we can usually carry on,
albeit a bit more groggy, studies show that when we miss a night of sleep,
our IQ drops by 1 standard deviation,
meaning you'll be "operating as if you've got a learning disability," she said.

Coaching to sleep
What do experts recommend to overcome sleep challenges for leaders?
Both Swart and Payne do a lot of coaching for executives, CEOs, CFOs
and financial industry leaders in particular. The coaching takes place either on a personal level
or in sort of retreat-style group setting where colleagues go away to focus for a day
maybe four times per year. Similar to using a personal trainer at the gym,
these increasingly popular type of consultants, or coaches, push their clients in terms of leadership.
Swart says she uses various techniques including a food diary or a questionnaire
that looks at the physical, spiritual and mental health around each individual.
Wearable technology has helped too, claims Swart,
as many clients love seeing data and tracking their sleep in this way.
Poor "sleep hygiene" is linked to everything from how late in the day we drink caffeine and alcohol, to looking at the blue light of our computer screens less than an hour before we go to sleep.
Other tips from Swart include using certain aromas to help sleep,
blackout curtains and eating at least an hour and a half before going to sleep.

Power napping
We've all heard the term "power nap", but what few realize is the literal truth to those words.
Both Swart and Payne stressed the importance of naps as one of the most significant steps
in becoming a successful individual and leader.
"I dream of one day having a cubicle where everyone can have a nap," said Payne.
"We're a long way from that, but it's absolutely right for everyone
who wants to enhance their performance. It has a huge effect."
Even if you don't go to sleep, incorporating a "mindfulness period" or "restful wakefulness",
will help relieve stress and rejuvenate the brain, in turn making leaders more effective
and better at their jobs, claims Payne.
The most famous example of a company embracing this advice is Google,
well-known for their nap parties and pods where employees can go in and curl up.
Swart said though she advises a 90-minute nap to get the most creative benefits,
most of the leaders she's coaching don't have time to do it.
So a focus on other mindfulness techniques and rest periods is often encouraged too.
Payne agrees, adding that mindfulness training, whether it's sleep or meditation,
will help to relieve the stress system. "It's the new frontier," she said.

http://edition.cnn.com/2015/04/01/business/sleep-and-leadership/index.html?iid=INTL_SPC


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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Saturday, 27 June 2015

The psychology of self-motivation

This flower is called Yellow flag, in motor racing and football it signifies boundaries.


Scott Geller is Alumni Distinguished Professor at Virginia Tech and Director of the Center
for Applied Behavior Systems in the Department of Psychology. He is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, the Association for Psychological Science, and the World Academy 
of Productivity and Quality. He has written numerous articles and books,
including When No One's Watching: Living and Leading Self-motivation. 
Scott will examine how we can become self-motivated in "The Psychology of Self-Motivation."

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Friday, 26 June 2015

Stop saying you're sorry

The common name is Dog Daisy, anything named 'dog' is of no use.

Stop saying you're sorry
Melissa DeLay, M.A.

It’s hard to know how to communicate effectively and demonstrate business diplomacy 
when you’re in the middle of a conflict with clients. 
Let’s suppose you’ve dropped the ball, which means they’re not happy 
and the chances of ongoing business success for your relationship are slim. 
Unfortunately, some of the most commonplace words and phrases you might want to use 
in these sticky situations can actually put your reputation at risk.   
In particular, when it comes to business communication, 
no phrase is more problematic than “I’m sorry.”
I believe “I’m sorry” warrants negative connotations because our parents forced us as kids to say we were sorry even when we weren’t. Were we sorry for what happened—or that we got caught?
And thanks to errant politicians, CEOs and celebrities resorting to scripted mea culpas, 
we’ve become hyper-cynical about what an authentic apology even sounds like. 
So, even when you’re in the wrong, saying “I’m sorry” can hurt you: 
It makes you—and the person hearing it—feel bad.
A better choice is to craft an effective response, which reestablishes your credibility.
For example: You’ve missed a deadline. Instead of “I’m sorry,” you could say, 
“I intended to have your project finished by Friday. It didn’t happen. 
Here’s what I’m going to do differently to make sure I meet your expectations.”
If this approach fails, ask for mercy. The idea of granting mercy inspires people 
because it empowers them to act in a positive way. 
After all, it’s hard to withhold mercy when it’s asked for. 
Before you act . . .
Don’t blurt “I’m sorry” until you’ve had a chance to objectively assess the damages 
resulting from any mistake you’ve made. Use that information to focus on solutions 
that help you move forward. 
And frame your response around how the client will benefit from what you’ve learned.

Melissa DeLay, aka the Message Maven, helps leaders manage their reputations.
 https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/stop-saying-youre-sorry-melissa-delay-m-a-


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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Thursday, 25 June 2015

5 Companies Tell Us How They Retain Their Best Talent

Hard heads or Knapweed - knap meaning knob.
Folk lore used it to foretell a maiden's future.

5 Companies Tell Us How They Retain Their Best Talent 
Sara Sutton Fell

The 2015 job market outlook is unequivocally positive.
Even with a dip in February employment numbers from severe weather across the nation,
the overall prospects for job seekers are the best they’ve been in over a decade,
with job openings at their highest level in 14 years. That’s why employers need to improve
their old strategies to retain the best and brightest in their workforce.
With 5 million open jobs in the market, professionals -- even those who seem happily employed -- may be tempted to seek greener pastures in a new job. When looking at why people are leaving their jobs in 2015, the Labor Department’s Job Openings and Labor Turnover Survey finds that “voluntary quits” are far outpacing layoffs. Fifty-eight percent of those leaving jobs right now are doing so voluntarily, compared with only 35 percent being laid off.
From 2007 to 2011, these numbers were almost identical.
What does this mean for employers? Retaining your workforce will be harder this year
but adopting new retention strategies can ensure your grass is just as green
as what lays on the other side of the fence.

Representatives from five companies discuss the interesting ways 
they attract and retain employees.

Equip your teams to collaborate seamlessly from anywhere.
What is the daily experience of your typical employee when it comes to collaboration?
Whether in the office or working remotely, communication delays, malfunctioning software
and less-than-intuitive systems, leave employees feeling frustrated. Companies should focus on upgrading and streamlining communication processes to make collaboration fun, not frustrating.
Terilyn Monroe, director of global employee and community engagement at Inuit,
says the goal of collaboration support should be “to foster high-performing teams
by enabling them to collaborate from anywhere...increasing engagement and satisfaction.”
Kaplan Test Prep’s COO, Lorin Thomas-Tavel, recommends putting forth a “greater effort
in fostering communication, developing and keeping teams connected and cultivating our culture. The effective use of technology is critical, as technology platforms, channels and tools
serve as the underpinning for enabling these connections.”

Focus on training and equipping your managers as coaches.
A common HR theory is that employees don’t quit jobs or companies, they quit managers.
How does your management team compare to your competitors? Having well-trained managers
will go a long way towards retaining your best employees. Focus some of your retention efforts
on helping managers be the kinds of leaders that people want to work hard for.
This may be a shift from managing to coaching.
“A manager shows someone how to do something, such as the day-to-day tasks for his job
and a coach goes a step further to help an individual realize his full potential
and maximize positive outcomes,” says Clifton Harski, the director of training
and national head coach at Fitwall and an Entrepreneur contributor.
How does this help with retention? Says Harski, “People’s self-worth is often derived from
the importance of what they do for a living, and the ability to positively affect others
is hugely important and rewarding.”

Offer work-from-home options for your current employees.
Once viewed as a perk, remote work is becoming a normal way of doing business.
With much of the Northeast still buried under snow, tornado season beginning in the South
and hurricane season following shortly thereafter for the Atlantic states, working remotely
is an emergency preparedness requirement for many companies. At the same time,
from an employee’s perspective, the option to work from home is a hugely desirable benefit.
Data from Intuit found that 79 percent of full-time workers want to work from home 
at least part of the time. And in 2011, 59 percent of companies offered telework options
to employees, up from 13 percent in 2006. That’s a huge increase--is your company keeping up?
World Travel Holdings, a leading cruise company, allows a reported 70 percent of its employees
to work from home full time. “We place a strong value on creating an environment
where our employees can work from home, which has been instrumental in us being able to hire
and retain top talent,” says Debbie Fiorino, senior vice president of human resources.
And healthcare company Aetna says, “Aetna has used telework to retain valuable employees
for roughly 20 years.”
As the balance of power in the job market shifts from companies to professionals,
employers should proactively make changes within their companies that will directly impact,
and improve, retention efforts. The cost of implementing these strategies is far less
than the cost of replacing one of your top performers.
 http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/243831


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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Wednesday, 24 June 2015

How to stop screwing yourself over. The experience of being alive.

ferns on Heron stream.


Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer,
and one of the top career and relationship experts in America.
Widely respected for her grab-'em-by-the-collar advice and tough love,
Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want.
Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining.
Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show,
discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America. She is starring in a new series,
In-Laws, airing this summer on A&E. In addition, she writes a monthly column
for Success Magazine, is a former CNBC contributor and is the co-founder of Advice for Living, Inc., which develops products and television programming with experts in the wellness, health, relationship and career categories.

Most nights, once the kids are in bed, you'll find Mel at home with a bourbon on the rocks
and her Australian Shepherd at her feet, writing about life, love
and everything else on her award-winning blog: www.melrobbins.com
war with in-laws, talk about the real stuff, how to get what you want, be selfish, 
getting what you want is simple, the experience of being alive,


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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Take Advantage of Disadvantage

Nettle leaved bell-flower.

Take Advantage of Disadvantage 
Blanca Trevino 
President and CEO at Softtek

Oh, to be 22 again… the juxtaposition of freedom from school 
and the long-anticipated entrance into the working world. 
I started working my first job at Dinámica (technology subsidiary of one of the largest industrial groups in Mexico at the time) during college, at age 19. Over the next couple of years,
many of my girlfriends were getting married, having children, and pursuing their passion
to raise a family.  (My, how times have changed, as today’s Millennials are putting marriage
on the back burner in pursuit of travel, career focus, and further education.)
While I was very content in the working world, my thoughts at age 22 were not completely different from those of my friends. I always knew I wanted to be a mom, and during those days
I was wondering who would be my "other half." Owning a business was not on my radar.
Though I respected Dinámica, it had its limitations: corporate policy prohibited married women
from working. Until that point, I had never felt disadvantaged for being a woman.
Thankfully, my mom was an extraordinary role model for me and undoubtedly progressive
for the times (in Mexico, and anywhere) — mother of six, she pursued a degree in psychology
after raising us kids. In the male-dominated field of information technology,
where mainframe computers and men in blue suits dominated the corporate world,
my gender had not presented an obstacle.
Fortunately, this came at the time where a few of my co-workers at Dinámica
were leaving the company to join a new startup, Softtek.
That was my shift in focus; and the opportunity where I’ve since been fulfilling my dream.
I’ve had plenty of hiccups during my 30 years at Softtek (see my post on how we led our company into bankruptcy). 
However, one of the constant guiding principles that has carried me through
many experiences, personally and professionally, 
has been leveraging (or creating) opportunities in both the good times and the bad. 
Some the best outcomes in my life have happened amidst the most trying of moments.
There is a plethora of inspirational examples of organizations and individuals
overcoming disadvantage. Recently, we’ve seen remarkable turnarounds from companies like 
Delta Airlines and Domino’s. Even companies we consider disruptors like Netflix or Tesla 
have made drastic comebacks in times of crisis. On the brink of bankruptcies
or nearing obsolescence, these organizations took their downfall by the reins to not only get
their heads back above water but to gain back huge market shares.
The stories of author of the Harry Potter series JK Rowling and talk show host Oprah Winfrey 
going from rags to riches are prolific examples in today’s era.  German composer Ludwig van Beethoven went nearly deaf before creating much of his world-renowned music;
and Frida Kahlo, Mexican painter, pursued art amidst lifelong disabilities through polio
and a severe car accident. One may argue that these success stories were spurred
not despite these disadvantaged conditions, but actually because of them.
Today, I have two daughters in their 20s, and I am a grandma. Through my decisions,
I try to be a role model for perseverance — the power to pave their own path in life,
regardless of limitations. Unfortunately, as we know, often the best opportunities to gain clarity,
and effectively identify the variables you can control, are moments of crisis.
As Thomas Edison said, “Many of life’s failures 
are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” 

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/i-were-22-take-advantage-disadvantage-blanca-trevino



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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Monday, 22 June 2015

What Is the Greatest Challenge Leaders Face?

This sweetpea grew beautifully in an apparently hostile environment.

What Is the Greatest Challenge Leaders Face? 
Marshall Goldsmith

In my work, I have the opportunity to talk with many leaders every day
and I am frequently asked the question, “What is the greatest challenge that leaders face?”
It’s simple: Our greatest challenge is overcoming our own egos.
As a leader, you likely have a sincere desire to help and care deeply about developing others.
You have learned a lot, have great qualifications, and believe in yourself.
Unfortunately, these positive qualities can get in our way when it comes to helping!

Our Client’s Dedication Means More Than Our Wisdom
Of all of my coaching clients, the client who improved the most was the client with whom
I had spent the least amount of time! He was the CEO of a huge organization
and managed about 50,000 people. After our coaching engagement, I said to him,
“I have spent less time with you than any client that I have ever coached,
yet you and your team have shown the greatest improvement.
What should I learn from my experience with you and your team?”
He thoughtfully replied, “Marshall, you should realize that success with your clients
isn’t all about you. It is about your clients, the people who choose to work with you.”
He continued, “In an important way, my situation is the same. I manage about 50,000 people.
Every day, as a leader, I tell myself, ‘The success of our organization is not about me.
It is about them-the great people who are working with me!'”
This remarkable leader was Alan Mulally, former CEO of Ford, who was recently named #3
on Fortune’s list of the 50 greatest leaders in the world. Alan taught me a powerful lesson.
That the difference in my clients’ improvements wasn’t about me, it was about them.
The difference was about their dedication to achieving positive,
lasting change-not my great insights or wisdom.

One of My Most Embarrassing Screw-ups
In spite of understanding the theory of ‘make it all about them, not you,’
I can still let my own ego get in the way of my work.
For example, I am sometimes honored by wonderful organizations and this makes me feel good!
I love what I do, and when I am appreciated for it I feel great!
ometimes I cannot believe how lucky I am.
Although it is good to be thankful and grateful about our own lives, it is not always good
to assume that our blessings are the major topic of interest for the rest of the world!
Some time back, after I received an award, I was interviewing the team members
of a client executive that I was going to coach. I really loved the company
and was looking forward to working with the executive.
As I introduced myself to each team member during our one-on-one sessions,
I was so enthusiastic about myself, the great honor I’d received, and my wonderful life
that I forgot why I was there! The person who had hired me called to send her regrets,
noting that the team thought I seemed to be more interested in myself than I was in them.
To put it bluntly, I was fired!
I should have been fired.

And, that’s the lesson for today:
The next time your start feeling ‘smart,’ ‘qualified,’ or ‘wise,’ remember this warning:

Get over yourself!!!

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/what-greatest-challenge-leaders-face-marshall-goldsmith


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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Sunday, 21 June 2015

The skill of self confidence

These flowers cover everything.

The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU

As the Athletic Director and head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University,
Dr. Joseph is often asked what skills he is searching for as a recruiter:
is it speed? Strength? Agility? In Dr. Joseph's TEDx Talk, he explores self confidence
and how it is not just the most important skill in athletics, but in our lives.


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Saturday, 20 June 2015

Stop Worrying: 7 Effective Strategies for Dealing With Anxiety

I’m not sure which bell flower this is – but does it matter?

Stop Worrying: 7 Effective Strategies for Dealing With Anxiety
TEJVAN PETTINGER

We all spend too much time worrying about things that will never materialize.
And this worry only makes our lives unnecessarily complicated and painful. 
However there is hope. By implementing the strategies in this article, 
each of us can diminish our worries and anxieties, 
and thereby be free to enjoy life to its full potential.

Delay Worrying
This is a simple technique to stop our worries. If you find yourself concerned over a situation
in the future, you can try telling yourself, “let me worry about this tomorrow;
there is no need to worry about it today because it won’t happen for quite a while anyway”. Whenever the problem comes to your mind, just try this technique – delay worrying for another day. The fact is that most worries never occur; delaying them is just a clever way of dealing
with our negative mind. The nature of our mind is to create problems and things to worry about,
but this is a way to forget about them.
If you keep ignoring your worries you may later realize they are not going to occur anyway.

Take Action
When we worry about things we can become paralysed by fear.
Rather than just worrying, think very carefully about what practical steps you can take
to avoid the problem. For example, if you worry about your finances
consider how you could reduce your spending, increase your income and consolidate your debt.
If you just worry and feel powerless the problem will not go away, but will continue to lurk in the back of your mind. By taking action and working towards a resolution you will feel much better. Some problems shouldn’t be ignored, they require action; however, for other worries
there are no steps that you can take because the worry is mostly imaginary. If you realize
there is nothing you can actually do, this is a very good reason to stop worrying about it.

Be Careful What You Wish For
When we think about something intensely we give this idea greater power.
In some form these ideas are more likely to materialize. If we worry over making a mistake,
we can increase our chances of doing this. We therefore need to be careful what we think about;
if we worry over a negative outcome we increase the chance that it will occur –
Our worries can become self fulfilling. If we remember the power of thought,
we will be more careful about dwelling on painful outcomes.
Rather than worrying about a negative event, focus your attention on how difficult situations
could be resolved and think how you would successfully deal with the problem.

Keep Things in Perspective
Try writing a list of all the things that you are currently worried about,
then examine how much they really affect your life. Are you worrying about important things
in life or merely side issues? If your worries are insignificant issues then give them the importance they deserve.- If you don’t get a certain parking space in the morning it is not the end of the world.
If a child forgets to turn a light out, it is not a big deal.
Don’t be overwhelmed by small things – try to see the bigger picture.

Control Your Thoughts
The key to reducing anxiety and worry is learning the ability to control your thoughts.
Sometimes we feel powerless over our own thoughts; it is as if we are slave to them.
Whatever thoughts may come we identify with them and accept them as true.
However, this is a big mistake. Our own thoughts are often wrong. Also we do have the ability
to decide which thoughts to pursue and which thoughts to reject; if we are determined
we can prevent thoughts taking hold and throw them out of our mind. If we give importance
to controlling our own mind we will be less subject to pursuing endless worries and anxieties.

Don’t Be Vain
It might be harsh, but alas true, that we often worry about what people think of us.
We worry endlessly that we might not meet society’s expectations; we worry about
whether people will like us. With this mental outlook we start to give too much importance
to our ego; it means we are constantly looking for appreciation and the admiration of others.
If we don’t get this appreciation, we start to worry that we are no good. 
If we can develop greater self confidence and inner poise, 
then we will not worry about what others believe or think.
We need to give less importance to the opinions of the world. Even if we get criticized,
we should not worry because we should not identify our self worth with the opinions of others.
This is not easy to do overnight, but, if we can detach ourselves from judgements of others
we will gain greater inner peace and avoid worrying over the relatively insignificance
of people’s judgements.

Analyze Them
Another approach to dealing with worries is to carefully analyze whether they are actually justified. Ask yourself why am I worrying about this? Could I be wrong? 
Suppose you are worrying about someone’s reaction to what you did at work; 
it is likely that you are imagining the worse and assigning false motives to the other person. 
If nothing else you can sow a seed of doubt in the reason for your anxiety. 
Before, you felt it was 100% certain to occur, but, on reflection
you have to admit it is perhaps only 50% true. By analyzing and stepping back from the problem
you can evaluate its importance and this is an effective way to diminish the power of our worries.
There are always things to worry about, but, as it has often been said, worrying is not going to help. Either take practical steps to deal with the problem or don’t waste your time
worrying about unnecessary things. If you keep ignoring worries, eventually they will go away.
The key is to live in the present moment; when we worry we are thinking of the future or past
and this prevents us from enjoying the present moment. To reduce worries and anxieties
is not to ignore problems – it means we work toward solutions
rather than just thinking of bad outcomes.

Tejvan Pettinger is an economics teacher in Oxford and enjoys writing on issues of self improvement.
http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/stop-worrying-7-effective-strategies-for-dealing-with-anxiety/#chQG6MPkflEVCBRC.99


Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?
Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blog:
www.innermindworking.blogspot.com         gives many ways for you to work with the stresses of life
www.turbochargedreading.blogspot.com    for extra TCR information
www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com         just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”